Anyone remember that the title of this post is that line from the classic fairy tale Snow White, where the evil stepmother goes to her magic mirror to reassure herself that she is the “fairest of them all…..”?
Before I go on, let me just say I thought (as a child) that Snow White was a criminal, I mean come on, she breaks into the seven dwarves house and basically squats. No amount of “concerned” adults telling me that I was “missing the point” would convince me otherwise; ergo to me the rest of the story was pointless. I kept waiting for the bit where the dwarves called the police and had her arrested. Anyway, I digress.
What this fairy tale is premised on is that, as far as this nasty evil Queen is concerned, all her self esteem is wrapped up in being the “fairest” except as we know, she was a really nasty piece of work, with the personality of a medusa, black widow spider, shark and praying mantis combined – no baking cookies for this chick.
This murderous Queen constantly seeks affirmation that her external appearance is superior to and “fairer” than any other woman in the kingdom. Unfortunately one of the attributes of this Magic mirror is that is can also never lie.
Which brings us to; what kinds of defective, distorting fairground mirrors do feminists and a lot of women possess? Seriously, what parallel universe or mythical place in Never Never land are they buying these things?
The belief that a lot women seem to have about themselves, as fabulous beautiful goddess radiating some kind of celestial aura is………………either an example of mass delusion or their mirrors are definitely defective.
I’m going with mass delusion.
My mother taught me this:
“It’s all very well and good being the prettiest picture on the wall, but there’s only so long you can stand there looking at it without getting bored, what are you going to do then? Throw sugar at it?”
So, now we have reached a point, historically and metaphorically speaking, where these magic mirrors that women have been relying on are cracking, where in fact it is becoming clearer and clearer that they were not, and are not mirrors but paintings, just “special” paintings, like the one in The Picture of Dorian Gray – Oscar Wilde’s classic novel about a young man who sold his soul to stay “young and beautiful” forever, all the while living a life of debauchery, dissolution and unrestrained hedonism. Problem was, while he remained unmarked by this life, the painting showed every scar, every sign of this life he wanted to lead, without paying the price. He, of course had to hide the degenerating image of the painting in the attic so he could maintain the illusion of youthful perfection and innocence in public. 
For the purposes of this post, and to utilise the metaphor of the painting, in relation to modern women, someone is finding those magic paintings, someone is dragging those magic paintings out of the attic, and someone is pointing at them and saying this is what she really looks like! this is what she really is!
Actually is it more than just one “someone” it’s is a lot of “someone’s” it is the men, and hopefully more and more women of the MRM uncovering and revealing these false images carefully hidden away, putting them on display and inviting the world to……..look!
THIS is what lies at the heart of a woman who falsely accuses a man of rape because she was drunk and had sex then woke up the next morning and needed to maintain the illusion of herself as some innocent snowflake taken advantage of by a brute, a barbarian, a criminal.
This is what lies hidden at the core of a woman who marries a man for convenience, for material gain, for unearned security and to father her children, and then ejects, sheds and disposes of that man like yesterdays garbage coldly and calculatedly. Then callously proceeds to alienate this innocent man from his children, and worse, alienates those innocent children from their father. Creating a poisonous cloud of lies to justify this repugnant behaviour; such as “I’m doing it for the children” “he is a dangerous thug and I’m scared of him”
If one looked at her painting hidden away in the attic, what would the image be showing as these lies spewed out?
A vile ugly hag with a sneer contemptuously enveloping her dissolute face, that’s what you’d see. A hawk-faced harridan with hard eyes, and an even harder, colder heart.
It’s all smoke and mirrors, illusion and falsity, self delusion and subterfuge, and it is unravelling “ladies” your magic mirrors are cracking and your magic paintings are staring to stink. The malodorous vapour is seeping out under the door of that locked attic and there is nothing you can do about it. You made a pact with the devil (feminism) and Now – it’s time to pay the price.
Will leave you with one last word of wisdom from my mother:
“!f you sup with the devil, you’d better bring a long spoon”
I’m in the process of putting together some thoughts about self image, how we see ourselves and how distorted self-images influence behaviour. To some extent how cultural influences, such as the messages in fairy tales spoon-fed to girls get carried by them into their allegedly adult lives. Bit of a challenge for me, because I hated fairy tales about sappy princesses as a child. The greatest mind opening books I ever read were The Lord of The Rings – J.R.R Tolkien  and To Kill a Mocking Bird – Harper Lee . Up until a few years ago, I used to re-read both these books once every year. Need to get back to doing that – food for the mind indeed.
 Spark Notes on The Picture of Dorian Grey by Oscar Wilde;
“The first edition appeared in the summer of 1890 in Lippincott’s Monthly Magazine. It was criticized as scandalous and immoral. Disappointed with its reception, Wilde revised the novel in 1891, adding a preface and six new chapters. The Preface (as Wilde calls it) anticipates some of the criticism that might be leveled at the novel and answers critics who charge The Picture of Dorian Gray with being an immoral tale”. http://www.sparknotes.com/lit/doriangray/summary.html
 About the author J.R.R Tolkien: Lord of The Rings originally published in three volumes 1954 – 1955. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/J._R._R._Tolkien
 Spark Notes on To kill a Mocking Bird by Harper Lee: Published in 1960.
“In 1931, when Lee was five, nine young black men were accused of raping two white women near Scottsboro, Alabama. After a series of lengthy, highly publicized, and often bitter trials, five of the nine men were sentenced to long prison terms. Many prominent lawyers and other American citizens saw the sentences as spurious and motivated only by racial prejudice. It was also suspected that the women who had accused the men were lying, and in appeal after appeal, their claims became more dubious. There can be little doubt that the Scottsboro Case, as the trials of the nine men came to be called, served as a seed for the trial that stands at the heart of Lee’s novel”.
© Anja Eriud 2013