Till Death us Do Part.

I take the admittedly unscientific view that the more loudly and viciously and irrationally feminists protest about something, then that “something” is worth a closer look. No, not because I believe the “issue “ has any validity, but because feminists make a song and dance, create, or attempt to create a smokescreen of wailing to HIDE something less savoury. Like I said – unscientific.

The second thing, again not terribly scientific, is that if that “something” is being exclusively blamed on some negative trait inherent to men then there is something about women that feminists are seeking to obscure, seeking to camouflage.

Lastly, the object of the whining, complaining and attention is always something that benefits women at the expense of men or in some way advantages women and by default advantages the continuing funding of, and entrenchment of feminist ideologues in positions of power.

So, having taken the long way round, what am I talking about?

The notion of “commitment” the idea that “men are afraid to commit” to marriages, to relationships, to children, to adulthood (bearing in mind that adulthood definitions are the sole prerogative of women and feminists)

Bear with me for a moment – we all know that the rate of marriage is declining [1] – at a faster and faster pace, we all know that the phenomenon of MGTOW is spreading and becoming part of mainstream culture. Men are disengaging from, and declining to follow the “norms” of society, with marriage and 2.4 children and a lifetime of servitude to maintaining this “norm”

Of course the fault of all this disengagement is placed squarely at the feet of men. Yet, it is men who are ejected from their homes and families, women who initiate the majority of divorces [2] and perhaps more tellingly, men who doggedly, in the face of abuse, both physical and psychological stay committed to toxic marriages.

I’ve been reading the accounts from men posted as part of domestic violence month  presented by Dr. Palmatier on A Voice Form Men  [3] and the stories of men who stayed, in the face of abuse, both physical and emotional, who remained committed. This is a pattern consistently repeated, men stay, and men honour that initial commitment. For better or worse acquires a terrible poignancy, a terrible reality for those men who endure the “worse” and rarely enjoy the “better”.

So, what does this all mean, brushing aside the fog of whiny rhetoric from those females who ask “where have all the good men gone?” [4]  and ignoring the raucous chorus from feminists about how “men are afraid of commitment”  what are we left with?

Women are either incapable or unwilling to honour the most basic commitments, women seem prepared to abandon a commitment on a whim, while a man’s word is his bond, a woman’s word isn’t worth the paper it is written on.

The whining, the sneering, the vitriol around this, serves (in the eyes of feminists) as an attempt to maintain the fiction that women are the commitment queens of the human species, alas for them, that illusion has been shattered. It always was an illusion, a mirage created out of whole cloth to obscure the base nature embedded in quite a number of females. Feminism needs to maintain this illusion to justify its own existence as the “defenders of women” as the guardians of “women’s rights” – of course, for this one must substitute rights for privileges. Note, there is usually no mention of responsibilities on women’s part.

To be honest, I’m actually astonished that men still voluntarily enter into this toxic commitment, still willingly sign their lives away, still take on trust the word of any female that she will honour her part of this commitment.

Am I saying that ALL women cannot be trusted? Not necessarily, but, the legal, social and cultural framework within which modern marriages must be embedded and conducted, is designed and has been engineered by feminism as a cage, a prison, a deliberate mechanism to strip men of their autonomy, their dignity, their humanity and their value as human beings. Conversely it has been engineered to endorse, enhance and consolidate female privilege, female supremacy and female avarice.

To continue, in one way women and feminists are actually correct men are afraid “to commit” – but out of self-preservation, because what they are being shamed into committing to is toxic.  The females who must necessarily also be part of this commitment are……………….invariably vile, selfish, self-absorbed, untrustworthy and mercenary creatures with No Honour.

I realise that Honour is a rather old-fashioned concept, but without honour, how can one enter into and be trusted to fulfil the obligations of a commitment to “love, honour and cherish” (using the traditional terminology here) to stay the course “for better or worse” or “for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health”?

At the first hint of “boredom” at the first sign that a marriage requires some effort, at the first hurdle, obstacle or difficulty……………the vast majority of women bail out of their commitment, eject their men, make a grab for all the accumulated assets, and worst of all, hold their mutual children hostage for the ransom of “child support”. [5]

I’m not opposed to marriage per se, after all people are entitled to participate in either religious rituals or civil rituals which give them……….whatever they need them to give them.

But, women and to some extent feminists are to put it mildly obsessed with “marriage” the current rising attention being given to the falling rates of marriage attests to this. The problem is of course, that men are increasingly no longer willing to “fall into line” and do their duty (as prescribed by the current regime).

Historically marriage was instituted to protect property rights and succession rights and to some extent protect women. Women were quick to see the benefits that marriage offered them, and also quick to see that there were obligations attached. Problem is, women find fulfilling obligations…………………not really to their liking. So began the campaign to re-position women’s participation in marriage as “involuntary servitude”, turning the benefits into burdens, and the obligations into coercions. [6] Neat trick, wouldn’t you say? Perhaps they should focus their minds on the real meaning of commitment instead?

It is perhaps pointless to suggest that women take a long cold hard look at themselves as well, and ask Themselves this question.

All things being equal would I commit to me?  Would I honestly have no problem trusting this person? Unfortunately this would require a level of self-reflection and truthfulness about one’s less positive traits that females are not particularly noted for.

On a final note, I wonder if it will ever occur to women and feminists, that men’s refusal to “commit” to marry you lovely delectable creatures says more about you and what you have to offer than it does about them? Nope. Didn’t think so.

Things you might want to take a closer look at.

[1] Some articles on declining marriage rates.

May 29, 2013, 3:23 PM: Are Women’s Higher Earnings Holding Back Marriage Rate? By Kathleen Madigan  http://blogs.wsj.com/economics/2013/05/29/are-womens-higher-earnings-holding-back-marriage-rate/

The Marriage Crisis: How marriage has changed in the last 50 years and why it continues to decline: by Aja Gabel: http://uvamagazine.org/features/article/the_marriage_crisis

The Decline of Marriage in the West: Posted on August 19, 2013 by TedD, on Just Four guys: http://www.justfourguys.com/the-decline-of-marriage-in-the-west/

The End of Marriage: by Charles Martel on January 8, 2010: The Spearhead:

http://www.the-spearhead.com/2010/01/08/the-end-of-marriage-2/

[2] Who initiates most divorces?

Most of the time, wife initiates divorce: By Judith Kleinfeld: Anchorage Daily News: Published: June 24, 2012.

http://www.adn.com/2012/06/24/2518581/most-of-the-time-wife-initiates.html#storylink=cpy

Debunking 10 Divorce Myths: By David Popenoe: http://health.howstuffworks.com/relationships/marriage/debunking-divorce-myths.html

Marriage and Divorce: A Rigged Game for Men, But Also Ultimately Bad for Women and Children: Written by Dr Tara J. Palmatier on September 28, 2011:

http://www.shrink4men.com/2011/09/28/marriage-and-divorce-a-rigged-game-for-men-but-also-ultimately-bad-for-women-and-children/

[3] A look inside marriage and relationships from men’s perspective.

Domestic Violence Awareness Month: The Invisible Victims, Written by Dr Tara J. Palmatier on September 30, 2013:

http://www.shrink4men.com/2013/09/30/domestic-violence-awareness-month-the-invisible-victims/

There are 32 articles, all the voices of men describing their experiences.

[4] Where have all the good men gone?

Where Have the Good Men Gone? Or, Here We Go Again: http://www.artofmanliness.com/trunk/750/where-have-the-good-men-gone-or-here-we-go-again/

Where Have All the Good Men Gone? By Jill on February 21, 2011: http://www.feministe.us/blog/archives/2011/02/21/where-have-all-the-good-men-gone/

*Trigger warning: this is a feminist site so guaranteed the writer is missing the point and misrepresenting the reasons – just so you know.

[5] Tales from the Dark side of Divorce.

Fathers Rights and DadsDivorce.com: http://www.dadsdivorce.com/fathers-rights

Parental Alienation and Parental Alienation Syndrome Home Page: http://www.parentalalienation.org/

[6] Some feminists on marriage.

All sex, even consensual sex between a married couple, is an act of violence perpetrated against a woman.” Catherine MacKinnon”

Marriage as an institution developed from rape as a practice. Rape, originally defined as abduction, became marriage by capture. Marriage meant the taking was to extend in time, to be not only use of but possession of, or ownership.” — Andrea Dworkin.

From: Quotes from Radical Feminism http://www.abovetopsecret.com/forum/thread557984/pg1

What feminists have said about women.

Instead of getting hard ourselves and trying to compete, women should try and give their best qualities to men – bring them softness, teach them how to cry. ~Joan Baez, “Sexism Seen but not Heard,Los Angeles Times, 1974”

The implication being here of course that women are “soft” and men one presumes “hard”

Advertisers in general bear a large part of the responsibility for the deep feelings of inadequacy that drive women to psychiatrists, pills, or the bottle”. ~Marya Mannes, But Will It Sell?, 1964”

Oh dear, poor addled headed women – no minds of their own.

“The reason there are so few female politicians is that it is too much trouble to put makeup on two faces”. ~Maureen Murphy

http://www.quotegarden.com/feminism.html

Tut tut – bitchy bitchy bitcy.

© Anja Eriud 2013

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3 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Grumpy Old Man
    Nov 11, 2013 @ 03:22:20

    Eriu, I think you bring a different approach and fresh breath to the discussion between men and women. I’m honored to be the first invited to see this and post a response. Please share this with the world. GOM

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  2. DxM Scotty MxD
    Nov 17, 2013 @ 16:38:01

    Eriu, great article. While the points are not at all new, as GOM suggests, to hear a lass turn round and say “you know what, why are men doing this? It is bat shit insane!” Is actually quite refreshing.

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  3. Anja Eriud
    Nov 17, 2013 @ 19:29:15

    Thank you both.

    @ Scotty.

    It is true that I’m treading well worn ground, but my intention is to challenge female thinking, to abandon the false mythology and shallow pap that informs that thinking.

    The issue is that while women in survey after survey place getting married and having families quite high on their list of “priorities” they really need to understand that THEY, by endorsing feminism by embracing the toxic message of feminism have literally made themselves unmarriable,

    Closing their eyes to the evidence around and in front of themselves at how women trivialise, dishonour and treat with contempt the committment required to build a sucessful, mutally benefical marriage is disengenuous and dishonest.

    Not to mention the legal and social negative costs for men, which a lot of women also prefer to turn a blind eye too.

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