The “M” Word

 

Women are crap at marriage, the “M” word” even when they yearn, they cry into their pillows at night for marriage, even when they think they believe they know what marriage is – they are still mostly crap at it.

The reason is actually quite simple, the marriage they dream of, they expect to have, they pine for, and in some instances pour scorn on (hello feminists) is a creation, a fantasy, an illusion that they created themselves, to get out of responsibility for being adults, grownups.

Lastly, but not, by any stretch of the imagination least, the western worlds model of marriage was created and cultivated for women, as a device for women to play act their way through their lives, to play at “being married”

Problem is, the illusion they created had a very short shelf life, historically speaking, the conditions and circumstances under which the original model of marriage was created “to serve” no longer exist – let me repeat that.

The conditions and circumstances under which the original model of marriage was created to serve, no longer exist – except in the minds and imaginations, and to be blunt unrealistic fantasies of women.

If ever there was a “thing” that should be consigned to the – “seemed like a good idea at the time” – category, marriage is it.

Even then, way back when the kiss of death for marriage began to take over – (that would be romance by the way) – it was a pretty shit idea. For a while it served its purpose, and depending on the maturity and intelligence of the parties involved, a lot of marriages were successful, workable, managed to stay standing, or at least did, till the kids were old enough to leave home and forge their own lives.

And our two lovebirds could stop pretending that they could stand the sight of one another.

I mentioned that the kiss of death for “marriage” is romance? It is, and right now every woman who has ever dreamed of “walking down the aisle” in some ridiculous clown outfit called “the perfect wedding dress” has fallen to the floor in a swoon. Oh please! Grow up – get up – and shut up – don’t even think about commenting or emailing me with some tearful (and probably pages long) diatribe about love, and showing your love, and how I don’t understand what romance is.

Bite me.

I know exactly what romance is and I also know, that it to love, to friendship, to loyalty, to honour, what feminism is to truth, to human rights, to sanity. And feminism is the vilest, most corrupt and corrosive set of twisted beliefs that ever found their way onto a page or into the mouths and minds of any person. I repeat.

Bite me.

The ironic thing of all, to me at least, is that women allowed feminism and feminists to destroy, to corrupt, to make unbearable (for men) the very thing that generations of women, whether they admit it or not want, yearn for, spend their lives trying to enter into – the unholy state of matrimony.

As our cultures and societies developed and progressed, many women began to feel a bit discontented, a bit unhappy, not “fulfilled”(sigh) in their marriages – enter the nutcase lesbian harridans and self promoting hippy sluts of feminism, to give these discontented and bored “housewives” a “get out of jail free” card, an excuse, a nicely exaggerated, completely and utterly false set of reasons and explanations for their “boredom”

Something is wrong with “marriage”? It can’t be me, therefore it must be you! With the “you” being men – as we all know, it doesn’t take much for women to completely lose all sense of proportion, or reality for that matter – therefore marriage must change – the legal and social framework within which marriages must be conducted in western societies must change so that women can “be happy” again.

Because, women still wanted their fantasy, their romance, their illusion – alas – of all the tinkering, all the changes, all the remodelling of marriage that feminism, feminists and women insisted needed to be done so that marriage was something that suited women – the ONLY change that could have made marriage at the bare minimum workable was not done, was never even considered, and to this day would induce rage, hysterics and poisonous articles from women and feminists with the intellectual capacity of a tree frog.

There is, and was ONLY one “thing” that needs and needed to be changed – WOMEN!

This is where I’m going to say, what for a lot of women will sound if not odd at the very least, then once again consign me, to that sphere of outer darkness that women reserve for those who “betray the sisterhood” boo bloody hoo. I LIKE it out here guuuuuurls  🙂

I like men.

I like the way they think, I like the way they talk and express themselves, and I like, with a few exceptions their sense of humour. Men are great fun, they are kind and generous (and no, I don’t mean that in a monetary way) they are loyal and trustworthy. You can depend on a man to keep his word, you can be sure that if a man says he will or won’t do something that it will or won’t be done. And yes, of course I am aware that some men can be just as big arseholes as women – but there is a vindictiveness, a spitefulness and nastiness within women that you don’t find in many men.

Most women don’t LIKE men – just the way they are – men are projects – blank slates upon which women get to write instructions upon. Women don’t SEE men as autonomous separate entities to themselves – men are an extension, a reflection, an appendage to a woman – a man is only as good as the woman in his life can either force him to be, or make him be, and that fits in with whatever bloody Disney fantasy they’ve had running in their heads since they wore their first “boys are stupid, throw rocks at them” tee-shirt.

For women, men are bit players, not even co-stars, but bit players in the drama, the fantasy, the illusion that is, the life and times of ME!

Of course the other ridiculous and asinine thing that women bleat and wail about and demand that men do is to “work on our marriage”?

Excuse me?  Do what?

Like the various bits of random engines and whatever they were, my brothers used to “work on”? Like an inanimate object that you were creating, be it a piece of sculpture, a painting or a piece of furniture? Like that?

There is only one “thing” that one could possibly “work on” that would make any difference to whether or not you are in a positive, enriching, worthwhile and workable union (I’m getting fed up writing the word marriage – and I think I might be breaking out in a rash!)

YOU!

You read that right, and by the way, I AM specifically addressing women – if you have a problem in your union – then that is YOUR problem.

But, but, but, but………….he does this, he doesn’t do that, he won’t do this, he won’t do that…..boo hoo!

Answer: So?

Are you suggesting, demanding and expecting that an autonomous human being accedes to your command, your order because YOU demand it?

Personal example: I cannot explain this, I have no idea why, but whistling drives me mad, seriously, it sets my teeth on edge, my late partner didn’t whistle – much – and only did it unconsciously – so, the first time – I explained, more or less as I just did above – then I ASKED – politely, civilly. His response, sorry darling, I’ll stop,  just let me know if I do it without thinking. End of conversation.

I hear women moan and whine about “what an arsehole” their husbands or partners are – and two things – arseholery is in the eye of the beholder – and like it or lump it people have the right to BE arseholes if they want to be.  If you don’t want to be around an arsehole – LEAVE, and leave the kids behind, you’re the one with the problem, not them.

I’ll admit, I am constantly shocked at how women speak to and treat their partners, I know I shouldn’t be, but I am, and when I say things like;

“If you spoke to, or treated me in that manner, I would probably find the biggest bucket of pig swill I could find, and dump it over your head”

I am equally shocked at how shocked THEY are, at being criticised!

If she was in my house, I would throw her out, and invite him to remain, and no, I’m not kidding – women seem to believe that the normal rules for civil behaviour, for how one treats other human beings are suspended, no longer apply, magically disappear in the context of a union or partnership.

THEY DO NOT!

The problem with modern marriage, and modern relationships, partnerships, unions, whatever floats your particular boat is WOMEN – and the problem with women is that women believe and expect that getting married means at the ceremony, or whatever, a marriage fairy flies in and sprinkles magic marriage dust on you.

That the recitation of some words, the physical act of standing there in THAT absurd dress alchemically changes you – and him – and even worse should.

What you bring to a union is YOU – warts and all – and wedding ceremonies are not some kind of supernatural Compound W* that makes all YOUR warts disappear, for women actually, it does seem to cause a major outbreak of warts – big massive hairy ones.

So – women are crap at marriage, because women designed and created marriage in their own image, and need I say it – in general, with a few rare exceptions, most women are a pain in the arse.

Ladies, the wheels fell off your trolley a long long time ago – you all better start learning to walk.

 

© Anja Eriud 2014

 

*Compound W is a liquid you paint onto a wart to make it disappear, sometimes it works, sometimes not, try rubbing half a potato on your wart – seriously – try it. 🙂

 

 

 

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9 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Russell
    Feb 24, 2014 @ 12:50:24

    Now I don’t suppose you have a sister Anja? 🙂

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    • Anja Eriud
      Feb 24, 2014 @ 13:11:21

      Lol!

      Alas Russell 🙂

      I do have a few female cousins though – but good luck trying to talk them into “getting married” afraid we have a bit of genetic predispostion to NOT getting married in my family.

      One or two of us have “tried it” but not really “our thing” one of my cousins – has attempted to “get married” at the last count – three times now – but at the last minute (not literally) just couldnt do it.

      Oddly, the only time she and her other half ever really fell out – was when they were planning these….emmmmm…weddings.

      Anja

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  2. Anja Eriud
    Feb 24, 2014 @ 13:50:44

    I was given a book when I was about 16 or 17 years old, it was called The Prophet by Kahlil Gibran, I was told to pay especial attention to the part on marriage – and to spend some time reflecting on what it could mean, and how I might bear in mind what it meant, should I choose to share all or part of my life with someone.

    On Marriage

    Then Almitra spoke again and said, “And what of Marriage, master?”
    And he answered saying:

    You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore.
    You shall be together when white wings of death scatter your days.
    Aye, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God.

    But let there be spaces in your togetherness,
    And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.
    Love one another but make not a bond of love:

    Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
    Fill each other’s cup but drink not from one cup.
    Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf.
    Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,

    Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.
    Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping.
    For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.

    And stand together, yet not too near together:
    For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
    And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow.

    http://www-personal.umich.edu/~jrcole/gibran/prophet/prophet.htm#Marriage

    Anja

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  3. Norman L.
    Feb 24, 2014 @ 19:27:35

    I pretty much agree with all, except where you seem to be saying that romance died before feminism came along. Are you sure it wasn’t feminism that killed romance? Note that for the most part, only a woman can answer this. (Let me know if I have you wrong.)

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    • Anja Eriud
      Feb 24, 2014 @ 20:11:37

      Hello and welcome Norman

      What I meant was, and I apologise if it was unclear, that a form of manufactured and contrived “romance” comprised of gestures, of a pattern of gift-giving, of male obsequiousness to the point of farcical adoration of women began to become the expected behaviour of “wooing”

      Having said that, this “chivalry” has deeper roots as a trip over to Gynocentrism and its Cultural Origins – the link is at the side – will show.

      Romance became a way of valuing the worth of a man – and the theme became that a man must become worthy to DESERVE one of these wretches.

      With regard to feminism, I personally believe that the attitude of feminists created and is creating a conflict in women, feminism took the most benign gestures of “chivalry” such as opening doors, and to blunt made mountains out of molehills.

      The object of course being to make everything men did some kind of “oppressive” manoeuvre on the part of men. Yet, after being first inculcated with notions of “romantic love” and expecting to be “wooed” women were now supposed to…….what?

      The bottom line is that, left to their own devices, men and women instinctively know how to do “mating behaviour” for want of a better word. Men and women are, and will continue to BE attracted to one another – but now we have all this crap in the way.

      Romance = “because I’m worth it” and you’re not! Sigh.

      Anja

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  4. Norman L.
    Feb 24, 2014 @ 22:43:15

    Yeah, now I see what you mean.

    My movie analysis blog has a post on it explaining that Stanley Kubrick believed feminism brings out the dark side of women, what Carl Jung called the dark side of the Self.

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  5. Norman L.
    Feb 25, 2014 @ 00:56:43

    Yes, I well remember Osbourne and Bobbitt. At least Bobbit’s husband got a kind of ‘last say’ in that they sewed it back on, though I think he later devolved into making porn films. Osbourne is really kind of disgusting, I’m surprised she said what she did but I was not surprised when the audience laughed.

    Also recall Leno’s jokes about Tiger Woods getting his face split open with a golf club. And as far as I know the perpetrator (his girlfriend or was it wife?) was not even arrested.

    I have looked Robert St. E.’s site a few times and I think it’s really great, I actually thought of creating that kind of a site a few years ago but didn’t follow through on it. I think there was also a recent video by Fidelbogen posted on Elam’s site, that talked about the dark side. I think men’s ‘stereotypical’ dark side is more like what many people would call satanic, but I’m not sure what Jung’s view on this was. (Note that the dark side of the Self is not the same as what Jung called the Shadow.)

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  6. donzaloog
    Mar 03, 2014 @ 17:30:31

    Feminism and the surge of single motherhood that followed has created a culture where the dark side of women if celebrated and normalized. We now have at least 2 generations of men who grew up with no positive male figures in their lives. Now these same feminists are asking “where have all the good men gone”?

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