How Dare You Have an Opinion……On Me!

 

Two things – first this delightful little quote I have often heard women use with regard to the “men in their lives” (and this little phrase is one we will be coming back to)

when I want your opinion, I will give it to you

The second thing is about me, a piece of advice I was given by a careers teacher way back in the mists of time when I was “young”

you’re very opinionated for a 16 year old – you should think about curbing that, and doing a secretarial course

Now, before any feminist decides to pounce on this as an example of “oppression” and “patriarchy” the teacher was female and she had never had an original thought in her entire life – of this I am convinced, and she didn’t like me, at all, for various reasons, mostly centred around me being “opinionated”

As you can probably see, if you’ve read any of my scribblings, not a piece of advice I took seriously or followed, ever.

Moving On.

Women, with the bedrock of feminist cant and drivel backing them up, have now inculcated a very insidious and egotistical state of mind – no-one, especially men, is allowed to have an opinion, other than a positive one, of anything they do, say or are.

In fact, with regard to having opinions, men are now not allowed to have an opinion on anything, just in case it clashes with whatever ephemeral or passing “opinion” on said subject that a woman has, any woman, on anything. Though, that “opinion” could change on a daily basis.

If as a man for example, you like go kart racing, and a female has allowed you “into her life” and in her opinion, go kart racing is stupid/boring/ridiculous/not my cup of tea – it will then be expected that you, a mere man, will now abandon your pleasure, your hobby, the thing that is your cup of tea – forever.

Woe betide you, if you sneak off on a Saturday afternoon with a couple of mates for an hour or two of sheer unadulterated pleasure – while she is at the hairdressers (could be anything up to four hours), at her mother’s (at least three hours) at her best friend’s (anything between an hour and eternity, depends on how much you have pissed her off that week) shopping (on a Saturday, and there are sales on? – at least six hours)

Annnnnnnnd she finds out!

Mate – you are now in the absolute shit – the doghouse – the outer realms of the universe where all men are consigned who do something that a female has specifically told you – SHE doesn’t like.

I might add, this egregious calumny is compounded if she has assigned you tasks to be done “while I’m off doing something really really important”.

I know, I know, you’re going to try logic and reason – everything on the list was done in record time, so “what’s the big deal?”

Sigh – tut tut – it’s “all about trust” doncha know – “you prooooooooooomised”.  It’s all about “letting her down” about her “feeeeeeeelings

By the way, even if you “cheated” and hired an expert to do whatever your assigned task was – it will be a “shit job” – it was “done wrong” – now she has to “hire someone” to “get it done right!”. Probably the same bloke YOU hired to do it in the first place.

I can almost guarantee that as he walks in to “do a proper job” you will exchange looks – because he probably has his own live-in wretch, tormenting the life and soul out of HIM, every bloody minute of the morning noon and night.

So, what has this to do with me and being “opinionated”? Well, granted in my youth my opinions were half and half actual knowledge of something that I had formed an opinion about, and my “feelings” about something – they of course tended to be very black and white – right or wrong – good or bad, no gray areas.

But my parents would have none of that – my mother – “give me a reason” sigh. My father – “how do you know that, have you checked to see if it’s true/right?” double sigh.

The little scenario I outlined above is a bit of a conglomeration of various different incidents I’ve observed over the years – the go karting thing though – was actually the secret passion of a bloke I knew.

What underpins all this is that SHE “let YOU into her life” – did ye not know – men don’t have lives, passions, interests or a separate existence? Men are only “of use”, men either “compliment a woman’s life” or “make it harder

As for the original premise, and the title of this essay – “How dare you have an opinion, on me!” this is the female ace in the hole – it IS the get out of jail free card par excellence – because if you take back YOUR right to have an opinion on any damn thing you like, the “magic spell” is broken the one where being “allowed into my life” is not so much a gift, the beneficence of a higher being allowing you to bask in her glory – it reveals itself as what it really is.

A selfish, egotistical, vain, shallow wretch, bullying another human being, using emotional blackmail, and coercing another human being into doing things that undermine and make little of their value as an autonomous human being.

To all those men who might be thinking, especially with regard to Getting you to “do things” her way – “ah sure, she just likes things done right, she just wants the house to look good

Bullshit. Shall I repeat that? BULLSHIT.

Most of the petty, useless things that women assign you to do, and will never thank you for, appreciate or acknowledge are designed to “keep you busy” to “keep you on your toes” they are devices, artefacts created to control, to demean, to enslave you further and further into a state of existence where your only function is to meet and serve  – “her needs

Any person who would throw the equivalent of a tantrum because another person has an interest or hobby that they don’t like/share/find interesting is a wretch.  Any person who demands that you “do things” for them, on their terms, and will explode/sulk/whine/ if you either can’t, or don’t want to do them is a bullying wretch.

 

I believe I just described quite a lot women. In my opinion.

 

© Anja Eriud 2014

 

PS Go Karting is great craic (fun) 🙂

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11 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. reyeko
    Feb 25, 2014 @ 19:29:06

    I was 13 when I first started seeing guys give up their passions and interests in favour of making their girlfriends happy, I thought it was pathetic then and now as an adult I see men who for their entire teenage years and first 5-6 years of adulthood have not engaged in a hobby or interest that wasn’t preapproved by their girlfriend and I can see the lack of soul, that spark that made them great artists or athletes is completely gone in favour of her interests. His friends become his ‘old buddies’, her friends become ‘their friends’ and he becomes nothing but an tool to hang off of her side and hopefully look better than the other women’s tools. I thought it was pathetic when I was 13 and it has baffled my entire life since then how anyone can live like that.

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    • Anja Eriud
      Feb 25, 2014 @ 19:56:49

      Hey Reyeko 🙂

      I know I took a slightly satirical stance on this article, but you have articulated the core issue – the soul destroying nature of someone being pressured, forced and manipulated into giving up their dreams, their passions.

      Deliberately and callously extinguishing the spark, as you called it that makes each individual an individual. I wonder sometimes if part of it is because women for some reason, feel the need to almost become clones of one another, therefore men MUST become clones also.

      I actually have some difficulty telling some of the young female students I encounter apart – they all look the same, sound the same, it is very odd.

      Anja

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      • reyeko
        Feb 25, 2014 @ 20:19:12

        I think it’s rooted in the need for control, everyone wants to control what goes on in their lives, men and women. Our culture currently tells women there is nothing they can control, that they’re leaves blowing on the whims of the patriarchy while it tells men that they are the masters of their world. So we see women’s human need to have control over their lives manifest in a harmful way wherein they need to control what goes on in the lives of people who as you say they ‘allow into their life’. This is all just conjecture on my part but I think it’s a good theory.

      • Anja Eriud
        Feb 25, 2014 @ 20:51:06

        My inclination would be to say to exercise autonomy – rather than control – but that the concept of autonomy has been corrupted by feminism as “a lack of control”

        I like that phrase “they’re leaves blowing on the whims of the patriarchy while it tells men that they are the masters of their world” excellent.

        Feminism has insinuated to women that unless they control their physical and social environments they are powerless – in exactly the way you rather poetically described it.

        While yes, there are some aspects of our physical and social environments we can control, ultimately the only thing we have, and should have, complete autonomy over is ourselves, every aspect of our physical and conscious being.

        It drives me mad when I hear women absolve themselves of responsibility for any act that causes harm to another human being – with “I couldn’t help myself”

        Piffle – you CHOSE not to “help yourself” if you are unable to control your behaviour then you should either seek psychiatric help or voluntarily have yourself committed.

        If you are claiming that you are sane, then you are either a moron or a danger to others.

        This whole “letting people into your life” thing, people by their very existence are IN your life – unless you live on a separate plane of existence from the rest of humanity – your presence on this planet is not that of visiting superior entity for whom only the favoured few may approach, head down or on their knees, prostrating themselves before your magnificence.

        Someone who declares themselves willing and desirous to spend THEIR time on this planet WITH you is doing you an honour, is paying you a compliment – your obligation is to return that honour, return that compliment.

        Yet, here we are, in a world where women are elevating themselves above one half of humanity on the most absurd and frankly implausible of reasons – an accident of birth, a genetic event over which they had no control, or part in, that marked their entrance into this world as female.

  2. caprizchka
    Feb 26, 2014 @ 00:03:51

    Thank you for articulating why I just can’t seem to stand being around most women anymore. Rather, I do enjoy being a sympathetic ear to their fellow victims. For what it is worth, most women treat me like “a man” because I am big, strong, non-flighty, and apparently fearless enough to engage with men on their turf. I’m so glad that I am not “letting people into your life” like these women anymore.

    Meanwhile, my partner is out there regularly cheerfully soothing feminine hackles–he’s a general contractor–while trying not to humiliate their husbands. Before I can talk to my partner when he gets home from work he needs to decompress by looking at mindless porn to help him to erase all the B.S. he had to swallow while practicing his peripheral leer. It is a good thing that women today have *something* going for them these days. How ironic it would seem that for many their body is the only thing that makes them worthwhile. Being that I am straight, that sort of leaves me out.

    So, if you’re ever in Los Angeles, and have some time to spare, perhaps I can make you something nice to eat or drink…?

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    • Anja Eriud
      Feb 26, 2014 @ 12:34:13

      Ye Gods!

      Another sentient human being, who happens to be female.

      Hello and Welcome Caprizchka, I am pleased that you found something that resonated with you in my posts, and almost as equally pleased to hear how you “get it”

      As for women having *something* that *something” is I believe rapidly losing the power to blind men, to pull the wool over their eyes.

      There may have been a time when feminine charm or wiles worked, but only because females retained some sense that there was an element of reciprocity involved, alas no longer, not even on a superficial level do women feel or believe that men are human beings, with needs, with dreams, with feelings of their own.

      They have become gorgons, medusa’s, harpies and painted and primped reptilian scavengers and parasites.

      How kind of you to offer me your hospitality, I was in Los Angles, once, rather I was in LAX on the way to somewhere else, thank you – I may take you up on that offer sometime soon. 🙂

      Anja 

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  3. caprizchka
    Feb 27, 2014 @ 02:57:53

    “They have become gorgons, medusa’s, harpies and painted and primped reptilian scavengers and parasites.” May I quote you?

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    • Anja Eriud
      Feb 27, 2014 @ 15:01:30

      Hi caprizchka

      Of course, I’m flattered, I feel like…….like Oscar Wilde (personal hero) if only for a very brief moment.

      Thank you

      Anja 🙂

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  4. Jabberwocky
    Mar 15, 2014 @ 16:45:20

    Thank you for understanding. I have a high IQ and Aspergers. People like me took humanity into space, created modern medicine and technology, and many other feats of cognition. Yet my understanding of the complexities and nuances of human interaction and the deception that underlies much of it caused women to ….. take advantage of my social naivety. They played games with my heart. (I had a popular Alpha older brother, so my social circle was made up of high achievers and beautiful woman) Imagine what Queen bees can do to a geeky guy who doesn’t get it, who doesn’t know his place, etc. They made sure I was socially ostracized by any female in my peer group, even though men have always found me interesting, creative, deep, and a true friend. Some men took advantage of my lack of social skills as well, but women seemed to enjoy playing with me, like a cat plays with a mouse, for their own amusement. The men where opportunistic with me, but I benefited from their presence often enough, if not equally of course, but the woman seemed to despise me on some level, and took complete advantage of me out of what I can only assume was sadism. I am not being hyperbolic. When a woman wants to socially destroy an uppity geek, its about as fair as a male athlete physically attacking a female. I was not a nice guy in any deceptive or delusional way, but someone with deep empathy for all living creatures. It is a stereotype that Aspies don’t have empathy. In fact, I never allowed a girl to friendzone me, because I just didn’t fake any social interaction, the truth being my default setting, and I saw friendship as perhaps a deeper bond than I should have. My empathy, my kindness, was used against me. I have many stories I could tell. Plenty of specifics. I don’t know what it will take to get over what women have done to me, but I no longer can afford myself to be empathetic for anyone, as it seems to attract people who just want to take advantage of me, and I don’t ;have the social skills to counteract this manipulation. Avoidance has become my best option. Even male friends are kept to a minimum of course. I don’t think either gender is more moral than the other, but at least with men I’m playing on an equal playing field. Thanks again for realizing that woman have always had plenty of power, a power that’s strength comes from it’s covert nature and often its feigned weakness, but one that has shaped history, evolution, and culture as a whole. I hate feminism, because I truely believe women to be men’s equal, and both sides powers and strengths need to be kept in check so that they are not abused.

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    • anjaeriud
      Mar 16, 2014 @ 12:57:55

      Thank you for understanding. I have a high IQ and Aspergers. People like me took humanity into space, created modern medicine and technology, and many other feats of cognition.

      Hello and Welcome Jabberwocky, and many thanks for your thought provoking and exceptional comment.

      I didn’t not reply because I thought your comment unworthy of a reply but rather I’ve read it several times now and it deserved to be pondered upon and reflected upon.

      In many ways those like yourself with Aspergers have what has been called the “Spark of Genius” many of the great minds and innovators have had that “Spark of Genius”

      Yet my understanding of the complexities and nuances of human interaction and the deception that underlies much of it caused women to ….. take advantage of my social naivety. They played games with my heart. (I had a popular Alpha older brother, so my social circle was made up of high achievers and beautiful woman) Imagine what Queen bees can do to a geeky guy who doesn’t get it, who doesn’t know his place, etc.

      Alas my friend I have after many decades of watching, listening to and observing women come to the conclusion that a huge number of women are in essence rather primitive creatures driven by instinct warped by the toxic influence of feminism – I do actually truly believe that – NOT that it absolves them from absolute accountability for their actions but rather they are simply flawed and degenerate human beings against whom the rest of humanity must be protected from – unlike the current situation which endorses and enables these creatures to flourish and act with impunity, and there are so many of them.

      They made sure I was socially ostracized by any female in my peer group, even though men have always found me interesting, creative, deep, and a true friend. Some men took advantage of my lack of social skills as well, but women seemed to enjoy playing with me, like a cat plays with a mouse, for their own amusement.

      As I said above, primitive and degenerative creatures lacking in any finer cognitive ability or qualities.

      The men where opportunistic with me, but I benefited from their presence often enough, if not equally of course, but the woman seemed to despise me on some level, and took complete advantage of me out of what I can only assume was sadism. I am not being hyperbolic. When a woman wants to socially destroy an uppity geek, its about as fair as a male athlete physically attacking a female.

      Part of the herd instinct of lesser evolved human creatures – everything they do is as if the act of a pack of sniggering hyenas – ripping into a carcass – or vultures circling a dying or weakened creature. Nasty creatures, though unlike these women these scavengers do actually perform some useful function.

      I was not a nice guy in any deceptive or delusional way, but someone with deep empathy for all living creatures. It is a stereotype that Aspies don’t have empathy. In fact, I never allowed a girl to friendzone me, because I just didn’t fake any social interaction, the truth being my default setting, and I saw friendship as perhaps a deeper bond than I should have. My empathy, my kindness, was used against me. I have many stories I could tell. Plenty of specifics.

      One could almost imagine the slitted eyed and sneering venal creatures waiting for the opportune moment to pounce – to take advantage of a person acting at a higher level of human autonomy. The sly manipulation of situations and the engineering of incidents that will elicit some unworthy act of viciousness and nastiness.

      I don’t know what it will take to get over what women have done to me, but I no longer can afford myself to be empathetic for anyone, as it seems to attract people who just want to take advantage of me, and I don’t ;have the social skills to counteract this manipulation. Avoidance has become my best option. Even male friends are kept to a minimum of course. I don’t think either gender is more moral than the other, but at least with men I’m playing on an equal playing field.

      Perhaps by realising that you have been used by creatures of lesser intelligence, lesser honour, creatures who merely take up space on this planet and contribute absolutely nothing to sum of human knowledge, endeavour or progress?

      Thanks again for realizing that woman have always had plenty of power, a power that’s strength comes from it’s covert nature and often its feigned weakness, but one that has shaped history, evolution, and culture as a whole.

      I am glad that you found something of worth in what I have written – and deeply appreciative.

      I hate feminism, because I truely believe women to be men’s equal, and both sides powers and strengths need to be kept in check so that they are not abused.

      I concur up to a point – and would go further, I personally loathe feminism – it is the religion of the venal, the vicious, the dishonourable – though I would not agree with the women are men’s equal part – not at all in fact – human beings come in all sorts of shapes and sizes – and some human beings – while retaining all the basic fundamental human rights pertaining to all human beings are certainly NOT the “equal” of some exceptional human beings – not in the sense that deserve to be treated badly, but in the sense that they are simply not “the equal” of.

      I don’t actually “believe in equality” in the sense it has been hijacked by feminists and other persons suffering from professional stupidity – but rather in the application of “equity” where it is required.

      I certainly DON’T “believe in equal rights” at all – I believe in Human Rights applied to human beings and the Law applied without reference to sex (I hate that stupid word gender) or any of the other “categories” of human beings that have been manufactured over the last 50 years.

      Many thanks Anja

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  5. Venus
    May 27, 2014 @ 04:53:04

    Usually I don’t read post on blogs, however I
    wish to say that this write-up very forced me to check out and do it!
    Your writing style has been surprised me. Thank you,
    quite great article.

    Reply

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