Darkness Into Light – Suicide in Ireland – The True Picture.


Contrary to what amounts to a cynical propaganda attempt by MHRI (Men’s Human Rights Ireland) to portray the issue of suicide in Ireland, and in particular male suicide as a health and social issue that is and has been swept under the carpet in Ireland – the exact reverse is the true picture – this is an issue that does receive attention – by qualified professionals – in particular Dr. Joan Freeman of Pieta House among many many others.

In fact MHRI takes some swipes at Pieta House – a free service in the business of offering help and support to those who are suicidal – because Pieta House doesn’t engage in rhetorical battles with feminists – they support, counsel and help suicidal persons to reach a place where taking your life becomes less of a viable option – MHRI also fails to mention that when one is receiving counselling (as I have) the contents of what you say is CONFIDENTIAL. As are the sessions offered by the many other suicide prevention services available in Ireland – whom they also fail to mention or give credit to, no doubt also expecting those service providers to also reveal the CONFIDENTIAL substance of these counselling sessions so that MHRI can reveal these sometimes painful sessions to the entire world in order to take pot shots at feminists. Nice.

Nor does MHRI even consider for one moment acknowledging or giving credit to the hundreds if not thousands of people who dedicate themselves selflessly, many on a voluntary basis to provide these services – to be a voice at the end of a phone willing to listen for as long as it takes to a human being in pain, for no other reason than to – be there – listening.


“About Pieta House

Pieta House, the centre for the prevention of self-harm or suicide, opened its doors in Lucan in January 2006. Since then, six centres of excellence have followed suit in Ballyfermot, Mungret, Roscrea, Tuam, Bishopstown and most recently Castleisland while we also have an outreach centre in Finglas.

Our founder, Joan Freeman, was a practicing psychologist. She closed down her counselling business almost a decade ago to dedicate her time to helping people who were suicidal. After three years of research, she opened up Pieta House in Lucan, County Dublin. It quickly became a respected and recognised service for those who were in suicidal distress.

With her long experience of counselling people who were self-harming, Joan knew this taboo subject was little discussed and rarely understood. She decided that Pieta House would also help people with this distressing issue.

Pieta House now has a staff of 170 and the demand for our services hasn’t let up. In 2013, nearly 4,000 people came to Pieta House for help and the numbers contacting us are rising all the time.

We’re passionate about our work. As 90% of our income comes from fundraising events, we rely heavily on the support and encouragement of our volunteers and the friends of Pieta.”

In fact AVfM did a feature on Dr. Freeman, at the launch of a campaign specifically addressing the issue of male suicide – the Mind Our Men campaign – launched in early 2013. I have searched through practically everything published on AVfM from November 2012 – October 2013 and cannot locate the video of the news programme featuring Dr. Joan Freeman that was published on AVfM to link too, at this point you can either take my word for it or not – the lack of this link does not negate the substance of and validity of the information I have incorporated into this article which shows that the picture presented by MHRI about suicide in Ireland and how it is addressed is patently false. Please see this link to illustrate not only the work that Dr. Joan Freeman is doing, but how the mainstream media, in the form of our national TV station covers this issue sensitively and seriously.

Not only is the issue of male suicide being addressed, but these dedicated and qualified people have been working in Ireland as you saw above, since 2006 – for eight years – and began this work at a time when suicide was not something you talked about – Dr. Joan Freeman and her colleagues changed that – so to have MHRI swoop in with their Save Our Sons campaign – and insinuate that until now this issue was being ignored is beyond cynical, beyond calculated, and smacks of a propaganda campaign to propel a less than savoury agenda – now who does that remind me of I wonder?

In fact there is another campaign being run, also under the auspices of Pieta House – it is called Darkness into Light which is in its sixth year.

“Speaking at the launch in The Little Museum of Dublin, Joan Freeman, CEO and founder of Pieta House said: “Darkness into Light is an incredible experience and one that people remember for a long, long time. There’s already huge anticipation and with so many new locations involved for 2014 it’s going from strength to strength. We’re tying this year’s event in with our Mind Our Men campaign that aims to reduce male suicide in Ireland, so I want to ask everyone to bring a male friend or family member with them. We’re making a big push this year to get all the men out – it means an early rise but they won’t regret it.”

Darkness Into Light 2013 attracted 40,000 participants in 20 locations around Ireland. With this year’s event taking place in 39 locations, Pieta House is hoping for a near doubling of last year’s turnout.”

Not only that but this year’s event, which takes place on 10th May 2014 will be an international event

London and Sydney will host Darkness Into Light events this year as Pieta House’s flagship fundraiser held in association with Electric Ireland goes international for the first time.”

I have a relatively simple philosophy – I believe in Human Rights – and the only qualification to be vested with Human Rights is to be a Human Being.

Right now all over this planet, men’s human rights are being violated – men are suffering, men and boys are being marginalised, abused, disenfranchised and literally throw onto the rubbish heap of humanity as disposable, as detritus, as worth less than a used tissue.

Anyone who is prepared to stand up and recognise this, and work for and on behalf of men and boys – gets MY vote – anyone who has dedicated themselves unselfishly to work for the betterment of men and boys deserves not just the credit for this, but our support, our recognition and our thanks.

One of those people is Dr. Joan Freeman and her 170 volunteers and colleagues who have spent nigh on 10 years in Ireland changing the public’s perception of not just the issue of suicide in Ireland but of male suicide in Ireland and of raising awareness of this issue.

What MHRI has done – and is doing with this Save Our Sons campaign, in my opinion –is an insult, a calculated cynical insult to all those dedicated people – it is a slap in the face to people who have already “done the groundwork” and it is attempt to use a sensitive and painful issue like suicide to portray themselves as the cavalry charging in to the rescue – that until MHRI came on the scene – nothing was being done – had they thrown their support behind either Pieta House, the Mind Our Men campaign, or the Darkness into Light campaign or even had the fucking decency to mention them – I might not be writing this article now.

But they didn’t – did they – in fact their inaugural article on this subject was so misrepresentative, so completely false that I did take them to task on this blog – and overnight – the article changed – all of a sudden there was a grudging mention of Pieta House.

I took a look at the MHRI site and NONE of the above mentioned campaigns gets a mention – NOT ONE – in favour of peddling a misrepresented picture of how suicide, in particular male suicide is addressed and treated in Ireland.

I don’t personally give a rat’s arse if they call themselves Men’s Rights Activists or not –I’ve been “advised” that any dissension “within the ranks” of the MHRM, either worldwide or here in Ireland would “be bad for Men’s Human Rights in Ireland. That we need to show a “united front”

Really? Is that so? Again, what does that remind me of? What other “movement” “closes ranks” and protects its arseholes, or its most vicious and frankly disturbed members – because – the movement must be protected, at all costs?

I’ll give you a clue – it begins with the letter “F”.

Well fuck that – I don’t give a flying rat’s arse how “high profile” how “influential” or how many “followers” or “high profile supporters” you have – who backs you or doesn’t back you. If you are a wanker, an arsehole, or if you play by the same rulebook that feminists do then – fuck you – you are full of shit, and I have zero tolerance for bullshit, whether it emanates from feminists or MRA/MHRA’s.

THAT’S what will be “bad for Men’s Human Rights in Ireland and worldwide – turning a blind eye to blatant bullshit and misinformation.

And this “campaign” that MHRI is running is bullshit – its putative leader John Gormley is full of shit – yeah you were wondering when I’d get to him. I did contemplate just “letting this go” on the basis that “they can do their thing and I’ll do mine” but – the Men’s Human Rights Movement has enough external enemies working to discredit it, working to find even the slightest little flaw or mistake to pounce on and use to discredit the entire movement – to allow this bullshit to go unchallenged would be to give tacit approval to the same underhanded techniques and sleazy tactics that the feminists use.

I would rather raise the ire and probably hatred of my fellow MHRA’s and be branded a “traitor” or whatever other choice term will now be hurled at me that just stand by silently while this shit is peddled in the name of the MHRM. Wouldn’t be the first time that a supposed fellow MRA has vented his spleen at and about me.

I read that stupid article on AVfM the “boo hoo facebook banned me again” and then the litany of whines about how facebook has been “picking on” poor John!

My first reaction? – big fucking deal – facebook banned you, though I did note you didn’t actually present any evidence of that – nor did you present any evidence of all these “threats” you had received – again – who the fuck does that remind me of?

What I read – was an egotistical, self aggrandising  UNQUALIFIED arsehole trying to portray himself as a valiant messiah bravely battling the forces of evil – all by his little lonesome.

But the most cynical if not downright ironic aspect of this putative messiah’s self aggrandising “mission” is this – he states that:

“We are hitting the streets again shortly more than likely next weekend (supposed to be this weekend but we had to change it at last minute)”

Right above a huge graphic of this cynical Save Our Sons campaign launched by MHRI – without any irony or for that matter acknowledgment of what is taking place the following weekend, not just in Ireland, but in Sydney Australia, and London England.

“On 10th May 2014 will be an international event

London and Sydney will host Darkness Into Light events this year as Pieta House’s flagship fundraiser held in association with Electric Ireland goes international for the first time.”

Nor did AVfM check its own back catalogue that shows an article/video lauding the efforts of Dr. Joan Freeman when she launched the Mind Our Men campaign in Ireland last year, in favour of giving an arsehole the attention, the platform for his own personal little ego trip

You simply took the word of a self aggrandising idiot portraying himself as the new messiah of Men’s Human Rights in Ireland – and on the back of probably the most emotive subject there is – men taking their own lives – in a country that doesn’t give a shit about them – and didn’t, till MHRI came along to save the day. Except on THIS subject – that is a lie.

There are huge Men’s Rights issues in Ireland, and it is those issues that drive these men to take their lives – but is untrue and patently false to claim that “no-one cares” they may not fully understand the dynamics of social/legal and cultural forces that drive these men to do this – but they bloody care – and have been caring for a long time, and working to address and support these men – MHRI has done these dedicated men and women a huge disservice – and what they are engaged in is nothing short of propaganda.

That’s what I saw – that’s what I see – will a shitload of both Irish and non Irish MRA’s including no doubt all the members of MHRI (whoever they are) plus a few more seriously disturbed nutjobs – one of whom was recently banned from AVfM, now launch a big hate campaign against me? Probably.

Do I care? Nope – bring it on. Because unlike MHRI – I don’t subscribe to the view that the end justifies the means – nor do I subscribe to the view that “well misrepresenting facts, disseminating false data or false perceptions works for feminism – so it will work for us”

Do you know what makes Men’s Human Rights Activists different from feminists, what sets the Men’s Human Rights Movement apart from feminism?

We tell the truth, the plain unvarnished truth, we don’t dress it up, we don’t tell half the truth, and cross our fingers on the other half, we don’t present a “version” of the truth” if it suits our purpose

We don’t lie by commission or omission, or fail to show ALL aspects, ALL data, ALL current information in case it diffuses the power or impact of what it is we want to convey.

We tell the truth – even if it shows us in a bad light – we don’t hide behind fudged statistics, manipulated data, we don’t create and manufacture false perceptions – we’re NOT fucking feminists.

We tell the truth.

I want no part, no association with MHRI – I publically condemn them, I publically call bullshit. You want to do some good? You want to advance Men’s Human Rights in Ireland?

Clean up your fucking act!

You want Men’s Human Rights abuses to be taken seriously, not just at a social and cultural level but at a political level, both in Ireland and in the wider world?

Clean up your fucking act!

And have the fucking decency to acknowledge and give due respect to people who have been working their arse’s off FOR Irish men and boys – before you lot were out of short pants and getting your feelings hurt by facebook. Not just in relation to this most sensitive of subjects but all Men’s Rights issues in Ireland – quietly, behind the scenes, for years, with no support, no acknowledgement, and no need to go onto the premier Men’s rights site and whine about getting banned from facebook.

I’ve been told that writing this article and posting it will “damage the MHRM” and my response is this:

Do you think for one minute that the 40,000 people who supported Pieta House’s THREE campaigns last year, or the over 170 people who have worked on a mostly voluntary basis for the last 8 – 10 years – along with the hundreds if not thousands of people who have benefitted from the services provided for FREE by Pieta House DESERVE to be shit all over by arseholes like John Gormley and MHRI – that they DESERVE to be bullshitted out of existence, and have those bullshitters PROTECTED – because it’s bad for the MHRM? People who literally in some cases owe their lives to those dedicated people who work for Pieta House? are to be dismissed and those who did support and help them dismissed?

“Peter, who lost his 16-year-old son Simon to suicide in 2003, went on to set up support organisation SOSAD (Save Our Sons And Daughters).

He says: “I think the reason men are more likely to die by suicide has more to do with the thoughts, such as the ones I had.”

I don’t support liars, I don’t shield bullshitters and I don’t stand by and allow anyone – feminist or MRA to dismiss and misrepresent or ignore the work of people who have dedicated themselves, worked tirelessly and selflessly for the benefit of others including Irish men and boys for years, because it doesn’t suit the agenda of the “movers and shakers” in the fucking MHRM.

I’m NOT a feminist – never have been, never will be – so no I won’t “close ranks” I won’t “turn a blind eye” we either fight this battle with honour, with integrity and with truth or we might as well join the feminist movement – we clean house – we stand by principles NOT personalities – or we give up.

We acknowledge and give credit to those who have worked and are working, who have dedicated and are dedicating themselves in particular to this most sensitive and emotive of all issues – and we do NOT send out a message to men and boys that there is no hope, that no-one cares, that that there is no help, no support, and leave them in more despair than before they logged onto a supposed men’s rights site – to be told this – that until MHRI came there was and is nothing – this is unacceptable – it is cynical and it is bullshit – peddled to portray MHRI as the only source of help – THAT is a lie.

Edge Of The Cliff


For those who have contemplated taking their own lives, they will recognise that feeling – of standing on the edge of a cliff – with nothing but darkness behind you, and darkness all around you, and darkness in front of you – one more step – into that darkness and you hope the pain stops.

I know that feeling – five maybe six weeks ago I was standing on the edge of that cliff – it wasn’t the first time and probably won’t be the last – right now I have stepped back – slightly – from the edge of that cliff – but I can still see it from where I stand – metaphorically speaking – it beckons.

Many people who have never experienced this find it hard to understand, they will say things like “you have so much to live for” or “this is not the answer” when in fact, your reality tells you that what you have to live for isn’t enough to make the pain stop, and for you the choice is to either live with the pain or do the only thing you believe will make that pain stop.

You are in the world but not part of the world, breathing is a burden, being awake or being asleep doesn’t change anything – you wish you would just stop breathing, that you would fall asleep and never wake up. All around you the rest of world feels like you are viewing it through dark glass, you feel hollow inside – not just emotionally but physically.

Your emotions don’t feel like they belong to you, yes you still feel anger, even sometimes a form of “normal” someone says something funny and you laugh – but – none of them really feel like part of you – you watch yourself from the outside – playing “normal” or whatever is “normal” for you – it isn’t an act – more like the actions of a person playing the role of the person you used to be.

And all around you the darkness gathers – the edge of the cliff gets closer ond closer, you move towards it and it moves towards you.

Every person who stands on the edge of that cliff does so for different reasons, and each person’s reasons make sense only to them – it all depends on what it is you value – what it is you hold dear – and no two people value or hold dear the same things, in the same way or with the same intensity – but there is one thing that all people who stand on the edge of that cliff have in common – they don’t value or hold dear themselves.

They believe that it is them, they are the problem, their mere existence is what causes and creates “problems” for others – and inevitably – it is the actions and behaviours of those “others” that reinforces that belief.

But when I say “others” I don’t just mean random strangers who take umbrage with you – or persons unknown to you who try to strip away and dismantle that shield, that barrier that, emotional and psychological roadblock that stands between you and the edge of the cliff.

As human beings, we invest only certain people with that power, we give only certain people that power, we make ourselves vulnerable to only certain people, we hand only them the weapons they need to dismantle that roadblock. We do this gladly because we believe they will never use them. Against us.

In my case, it was my children, and for many men, it is also their children, all psychological and emotional barriers come down, you make yourself vulnerable, and you do it gladly, for your children.

When your children are born, a connection is made that defies description, a bond is created that exists on more than just an emotional plane – it transcends all that – it is comprised of a substance that if severed actually feels like your connection to life itself has been severed. This is not a female or male bond – it is a human bond.

My children launched a campaign against me about five or six weeks ago – a vicious hate campaign – along with their father and his girlfriend and to the best of my knowledge a number of other “anonymous” persons – I have been alienated from them for about six years – and yes I know it is unusual for a mother to be alienated from her children, it is almost always fathers who find themselves cast into that outer darkness, vilified and literally cast into the role of the “sum of all evil” every bad thing that has ever happened in the world is laid at your door – every cross word, mistake and flaw is magnified out of all proportion – till even you start to see yourself as that monster they have created.

What I do also know that as soon as I have posted this they will start again – they will sneer, they will up the ante – they will snigger and they will call me a liar, in fact all sorts of names – that or they will post comments and send me emails urging me to “just do it” “we will dance on your grave” they will demand proof – and the only “proof” that would satisfy them would be my death. Should I continue to live they will cite that as proof that I “was just looking for attention”

But, it is when you finally lose hope – as I did – that you become empty, hollow, when the darkness envelopes you – and when you find yourself standing on the edge of that cliff – because you see – you realise – it is your existence – the fact that you are breathing, that you are here – that is causing those who you love the most to be consumed with hatred for you – you can feel it – it actually feels like you are choking on it.

Many men find themselves in that position – not seeing your children is one thing – having those who have been instrumental in creating this is another thing – but having those children – embrace and then hurl back at you the hatred, the venom, the anger and the vileness that is Parental Alienation is when you know – when you know that – there is nothing more to live for.

That’s why you stand on the edge of that cliff – because this is a hatred that you cannot brush off, cannot shrug at, cannot ignore or live with – this is a hatred that reaches into your very soul and rips you apart – tears down that barrier as if it was tissue paper – this is a hatred that finds you standing on the edge of that cliff – because there is no other place left for you to go.

I am still here because of two people – they literally saved my life – or – have allowed me to step back from that cliff edge – yes I can still see it – yes it is still there – just over the horizon – is the pain gone? No – pain like that doesn’t just go away – its sleeps – it curls up inside you – and every now and then it stretches and unfolds its claws – every now and then it expands and envelopes you – you start learning to share your life with it – you accommodate it – you make room for it – and you hope and pray that you and it can co-exist. Because you have no choice – because you see – that kind of pain holds all the cards.

You don’t control it – its controls you – it lies in wait – and strikes when the mood takes it – there are people who understand this, who know that right now, you simply do not have the emotional or psychological tools to excise this pain – to rebuild that barrier – to step far enough away so that it becomes unimportant – until it is so far away and you have rebuilt a strong enough barrier so that it would take a lot (you hope) to tear it down again.

They understand your reality, and accept it – they don’t try to impose their reality on to you and expect you to embrace it – they teach you to live within your reality. Because as human beings that is all we can ever do – live within our own realities and learn slowly and gradually to accommodate all aspects of that reality, including learning to live with a part of yourself missing and with the pain that this brings.

You don’t heal – you start learning to live with wounds.

I wrote an article excoriating MHRI (Men’s Human Rights Ireland) and calling bullshit on their cynical Save Our Sons, and dissemination of a completely false picture of suicide and suicide prevention services in Ireland (which I will publish later) campaign because – suicide is not a game – it is not a PR opportunity – it isn’t a political or rhetorical weapon to beat feminists over the head with – the fact that a human being has taken their own life successfully is not a matter of numbers, of statistics – of comparisons.

The issue isn’t numbers, the issue is REASONS. Suicide is not an agenda – it is a human tragedy. Human life is and can be fragile – we have all at some time or another stood either at the edge of that cliff or close to it – suicide prevention is more than just a skill one can learn, it requires a level of dedication and humanity that very few possess or have a gift for – those people who do are – worthy of our thanks, and our acknowledgment – which they rarely if ever ask for or expect. They do their work quietly, without fanfare, they do it without a thought for themselves – they do it because they must do it.

The issue is that a human being was in such despair, such pain and anguish that for that human being the only escape was in death – THAT is the issue – does it really matter if that human being is male or female – or are we now in the business of applying different standards of value to human beings, within the MHRM – only this time the other way round – more men take their lives than women – more boys than girls – does THAT really matter when one way or another – a human being lies dead at his/her own hand? We address the REASONS – we address the causes – and pay due respect – give due credit to all those selfless and dedicated people who wait on the end of a phone line – to try a save a human life. Any life.

The reality of people standing on the edge of that cliff – with only one more step to go – is quite another thing – and is an issue of their reality – of the life they are forced to live – of the limitations imposed upon them by external forces, by the actions or inactions of others – by the creation of a reality that is made up of many factors – by the deliberate and focused enveloping of a darkness of the soul – and for many many men and boys it is mostly women who create and concoct and manufacture that darkness.

But, in spite of the greater numbers of men and boys who find themselves in that darkness – standing on the edge of a cliff – women and girls too find themselves there – what matters is NOT that the person standing in the darkness, on the edge of that cliff is male or female – not at that point – what matters is that a human being is standing there – a human being that see’s and feels nothing but pain – nothing but darkness.

That darkness is made up of hatred, of vitriol, of revenge, of a desire to inflict pain, of lies, of distortions and of malice – and it is endorsed, encouraged and applauded by those who refuse to acknowledge its existence, who refuse to open their eyes and see – because no-one wants to believe that human beings would do that to one another. What propels a human being on that journey to the edge of that cliff is where we must focus our attention – is what we must address – and it is invariably the actions or inactions of other human beings that fuel this journey. Do the numbers matter? Not really. The REASONS matter.

But no-one wants their illusions shattered, their false perceptions corrected, their comfortable lies and myths exposed – to do so would mean acknowledging their complicity – recognising the part they have played – sometimes unconsciously, carelessly, human beings do not want to accept that they have within themselves the capacity to inflict such pain, such grief, such soul destroying injury on another human being – because that would mean they would have to look at a part of themselves that is dark, is malign, is vicious, is hateful.

You don’t heal – you learn to live with wounds – wounds that have been inflicted by those who you believed were incapable of such things – that is why you stand on the edge of that cliff.

I know this is just one set of circumstances that can propel a person to stand on the edge of that cliff – there are others – many others – but the motivating factor is loss – loss of something precious to you – of something you value – of something that gives your life meaning.

The choice facing those who stand there – looking into that darkness isn’t whether you will or you won’t take your own life – the choice is – can you or can you not live with the pain of what you have lost

Can you share that life with that pain – is there enough for you to hang onto to – will you be able to wake up the next day, and the next day, and the next day – knowing that the pain, the loss is waiting for you – will be your constant companion?

It isn’t about wanting to die – it is about being afraid to live.


To those who are now or are edging closer to the edge of that cliff – please – I beg you – pause – just for a moment and make one last call – take out your mobile phone – and just make one last call. It will only take a minute.

I know it doesn’t matter to you – I know you can’t see the point – and I know you think it’s a waste of time – but there are some people who want you to waste their time – who have nothing else to do right now except wait for you to call.

That’s all they do – wait for you to call – one last call – what can it matter – you can always hang up – but just make that one last call – please. A few more minutes is all it will take.

Put these numbers into your phone now – even if you know you will never phone them – just put them in – even just one into your phone now. Don’t leave without saying goodbye to just one person, without hearing for the last time the voice of another human being.

Samaritans116 123


1Life 1 800 24 7 100


TextHELP – 51 444

Console1 800 247 247



If you believe that you are nearing closer to the edge of that cliff then, contact;


SOSAD (Save Our Sons and Daughters)


Office Locations


6A Parnell Street, Carrickmacross, Co Monaghan

24 hour emergency: 042-9668992, 086-0459168 Email: carrick@sosadireland.ie



3 Tower Hamlets (beside Garda station) Farnham Street, Cavan, Co. Cavan
24 hour emergency: 049 4326339, 0834339090 Email: cavan@sosadireland.ie


30 Magdalene St, Drogheda, Co. Louth
24 hour emergency: 041 9848754 Email: info@sosadireland.ie


31 Williamson’s place, Dundalk, Co. Louth
24 hour emergency: 042 9327311, 083 4244182 Email: dundalk@sosadireland.ie


4 O’Growney Tce, Navan, Co. Meath
24 hour emergency: 046 9031855, 083 3712622 Email: navan@sosadireland.ie


Bow House, O Moore St, Tullamore, Co. Offaly
24 hour emergency: 057 9346704, 083 1711238 Email: tullamore@sosadireland.ie


Or: Find your nearest Pieta House:


Pieta House Ballyfermot

Mount La Salle Ballyfermot Road Dublin 10 Phone: 01-6200020 Centre Manager: Noeleen Devlin

Opening Hours: Monday to Friday: 10am to 8pm Saturday: 10am to 3pm


Pieta House Cork

Highfield Lawn, Model Farm Road Bishopstown Cork Phone: 021-4341400 Centre Manager: Sylvia O’Driscoll Wong

Opening Hours: Monday, Tuesday, Thursday & Friday: 9am to 5pm Wednesday: 9am to 8pm Saturday: 10am to 2pm


Pieta House Finglas

47 Mellowes Court Finglas Dublin 11 Phone: 01-8648899 Centre Manager: Linda Murray

Opening Hours: Monday: 5.30pm to 9.30pm Tuesday: 10am to 2pm Wednesday: 2pm to 6pm Thursday: 9am to 2pm Saturday: 10am to 2pm


Pieta House Kerry

Crageens Castleisland County Kerry Phone: 066-7163660 Centre Manager: To be confirmed

Opening Hours: Monday to Friday: 9am to 5pm


Pieta House Lucan

Lucan Road Lucan Dublin Phone: 01-6010000 Centre Manager: Avril Mansouri

Opening Hours: Monday to Friday: 9am to 9pm Saturday and Sunday: 10am to 2pm


Pieta House Midwest

Ardaulin Mungret Limerick Phone: 061-484444 Centre Manager: Nora Conway

Opening Hours: Monday, Wednesday & Friday: 9am to 5pm Tuesday and Thursday: 9am to 8pm Saturday: 10am to 2pm


Pieta House Roscrea

The Glebe, Ballyhall, Roscrea Tipperary Phone: 0505-22568 Centre Manager: Martina Leamy

Opening Hours: Monday to Saturday: 10am to 2pm Wednesday: 4pm to 8pm


Pieta House Tallaght

Mount La Salle Ballyfermot Road Dublin 10 Phone: 087-9368633 Centre Manager: Enda Dowling

Opening Hours: Monday to Friday: 9am to 6pm Saturday: 10am to 2pm


Pieta House West

Bishop Street Tuam Galway Phone: 093-25586 Centre Manager: To be confirmed

Opening Hours: Monday, Tuesday, Thursday & Friday: 9am to 5pm Wednesday: 9am to 8pm Saturday: 10am to 2pm

For additional information on our services email:mary@pieta.ie




Karrie Andlerson Nominates herself for a S.W.O.T.M.A – and wins by 50 lengths!


I get all kinds of comments, some are intriguing, some are insightful, and some are downright nasty, some are so bizarre that they go into the “you couldn’t make this shit up” category – which until now has just been a fancy way of saying “delete”

But, now I am impelled to actually create a new category – called – of course “you couldn’t make this shit up” fortuitously this new category aligns very nicely with the recipient of this month’s S.W.O.T.M.AStupid Woman Of The Month Award.

A recipient so deserving and so head and shoulders above many other worthy recipients that she stands out – if only she would – stand out – in the freezing cold of the most Northern part of Canada.

Because indeed, this month’s recipient hails from the land of the maple leaf – the land that produces the most toxic and malign acolytes of feminism, and possibly the stupidest – it really is a toss up.

Ladies and gentlemen, boys and girls and anything in between – I give you “Karrie


She posted this comment on the Personal Statement blog piece – right now it is sitting in moderation – and just so you know Karrie, I won’t be approving your deliciously stupid comment, but, so that you may have the benefit of being “in the spotlight” so to speak – and of course so that all those nasty misogynistic MHRA’s can…………what is the word I’m looking for……………………………educate you, I am posting it in full here.  🙂

Here is Karrie’s comment – will let you all take in its full panoramic glory before I critique it. Am having a bit of a problem controlling my own urge to burst out laughing


“I hate to tell you the truth but Men’s Rights is a hate speech blog. I am a Toronto feminist and I am not afraid of misogynist hate preachers.

Men have been oppressing civilization for centuries and fortunately for us, Gloria Steinem, Betty Friedan, Betty Azbug and other brave women have endlessly fought against the patriarchy and allowed us to have equal rights.

Your posts are sexist, but I dont lose sleep over it, because most Mens Rights activists are afraid of independent women.

For a 29 year old female, I have more accomplishments, earnings and I am more beautiful and sexier than any oppressed housewife. Men’s Rights activists loathe beautiful and independent women who have a bank account which shows I DON’T NEED A MAN IN MY life.”


Well now, is THAT a classic or is THAT a classic? Boys and girls, just as soon as you all can stop laughing enough to post a reply to Karrie, be……………………actually, just be yourselves.

Shall we begin?


“I hate to tell you the truth but Men’s Rights is a hate speech blog. I am a Toronto feminist and I am not afraid of misogynist hate preachers.”


There was a bit of discussion about whether or not the delightfully moronic Karrie was referring to this blog, Men’s Rights Ireland, any other blog or possibly AVfM with regard to Men’s Rights, after all, there are literally thousands of “Men’s Rights” blogs – so I’m just going to assume that Karrie is a bit confused, and more than a tad uniformed as to the full extent and global nature of the Men’s Human Rights Movement. I have searched and searched – oh alright – I didn’t – but Karrie appears to believe that simply announcing something is “hate speech” makes it so – now as you can see she doesn’t actually specify, what aspect of, well anything is hateful – other than it is a “blog”

Judging from her proud claim to be, not just “a feminist” but a “Toronto feminist” one can only surmise that a “Toronto feminist” is an extra special kind of feminist (as if we didn’t already know that) I’m wondering though – would all those feminists NOT from Toronto be a bit miffed, perhaps a bit peeved at Karrie, what with her putting Toronto feminists in a class above all other feminists?

Shall we just let them fight it out amongst themselves? I think that’s best.

As for her claim that she’s “not afraid of misogynistic hate preachers” well now Karrie – that’s just marvellous, and well done you! Did you know that what you just said would read as “woman hating hate preachers” – makes the second “hate” kind of redundant, and throwing in the “preachers” bit – inspired – almost evangelical – if somewhat – bizarre.

Next up:


“Men have been oppressing civilization for centuries and fortunately for us, Gloria Steinem, Betty Friedan, Betty Azbug and other brave women have endlessly fought against the patriarchy and allowed us to have equal rights.”


Men apparently have now moved up a notch in the oppression stakes, now it isn’t just women, its entire civilisations – for centuries no less.

Crikey Karrie – whole civilisations – tell you what – will throw out a few and you pick one – Byzantine, Greek, Mayan, Aztec, Mongol, Babylonian – am sure my colleagues in the MHRM can come up with a few more.

We will have to ask you to be a bit more specific regarding which centuries you are referring to – or do you mean just any old century?

Of all the most easily and effortlessly discredited feminists “pioneers” to pick – you chose two of the easiest – so easy in fact am not going to even bother – as for “Betty Azbug” its Bella Abzug ya nincompoop – sheesh – how absolutely embarrassing for you – having a NON feminist school you on feminism! I feel your pain.

Here – start educating yourself about your own toxic ideology, just click on the link – sigh – the things I do for feminists. Yeah – its Wikipedia, couldn’t be arsed doing your homework for you.


By the way – I noted your little slip-up – “and allowed us to have equal rights” hmmm, so on behalf of all feminists and “Toronto feminists” in particular, you’ve just stated that you have “equal rights” begs the question then doesn’t it?

What exactly is the point of……………people like you?


“Your posts are sexist, but I dont lose sleep over it, because most Mens Rights activists are afraid of independent women.”


Sexist? Hmmm, again – a bit more specific and I might consider addressing what are obviously just random thoughts that tumble out of your mouth, or in this case keyboard without actually making any connection with what little grey matter you seem to possess. Delighted you enjoy a good night’s sleep – me too! We could be twins  🙂

I’m going to take a wild guess, and say you think I’m male? Ergo – afraid of “independent women” along with all the usual twattish pointless shaming tactics used against men by…well….twats like you.

Alas, dear Karrie, am female, and…………independent……..and NOT A FEMINIST!


“For a 29 year old female, I have more accomplishments, earnings and I am more beautiful and sexier than any oppressed housewife. Men’s Rights activists loathe beautiful and independent women who have a bank account which shows I DON’T NEED A MAN IN MY life.”


THAT is my absolute favourite bit – seriously – it is delusion and narcissism and stupidity tied up with a big bow and decorated with sprinkles.

Well now, Karrie, in order for me and the wider MHRM to test the validity of your claims, we are going to require more than just your word that you are “more beautiful and sexier” first and foremost – and with regard to being more so than “any oppressed housewife” you will have to produce an actual “oppressed housewife” – so that we can compare. A photo would be just the ticket.

I gather then, that “oppressed housewives” are lower down the totem pole for Toronto feminists than “Men’s rights activists – so you and your fellow “Toronto feminists” won’t be “liberating” them any time soon – what with them being as ugly as sin, and as sexy as as roadkill, compared to you that is.

Note to any “oppressed housewives” feel free to join the MHRM – we welcome all and sundry, there are no qualifications other than one – all you have to be is a human being who believes in Human Rights.

I am absolutely in awe at the insanely moronic combination of factors that Karrie believes she has, which raise the ire of “Men’s Rights “Activists – not just being “beautiful” not even just being “beautiful and independent” but – being “beautiful and independent” and “having a bank account”

I think we need to pause here for a moment and reflect on that – the idea that “having a bank account” in the 21st century – is an achievement”

Perhaps a little interlude might help us all to truly appreciate the sheer depth, breadth and density of Karrie’s stupidity.


So, we all chilled out now?

Karrie is indeed “A Whole Lotta Woman” in fact she is so much woman that she declares – seemingly as a result of having a bank account in the 21st Century that this shows “I DONT NEED A MAN”

 Karrie, right now I am almost being knocked over by the collective energy of millions of men all over the world heaving in concert the biggest sigh of relief – EVER!


All the while thinking –thank fuck for that!


Edit: Public Service Announcement


It occurs to me to issue a bit of a warning to any of my male MHRA colleagues in the Toronto area – Karrie states she is 29 years old – which means her eggs are to put it bluntly starting to go off – and it is when certain types of females start waking up to a very loud tick tocking noise – now while Karrie is the proud possessor of a “bank account” she is also at “that age” where being the only “depositor” into said marvel of modern society – a bank account – might be becoming just a tad – tedious – a mite – irritating – for her – so – might I suggest to all my male colleagues in and around the Toronto area to:

RUN! EMIGRATE! FLEE! – well that or keep an extra beady eye out for a “more beautiful and sexier than an oppressed housewife” female waving a bank statement

Personal Statement.

My apologies for not responding to most of the emails sent to mensrightsireland@gmail.com or to comments on this blog or on my other blog over the last two weeks

I am posting this on both:

http://www.mensrightsarehumanrights.wordpress.com – Not A Feminist


http://www.mensrightsireland.wordpress.com – Men’s Rights Ireland


I have been dealing with a personal crisis, the details of which I personally am not ready to share, though others might, or perhaps already have, in or on some other media. I have no doubt that when they see this they will be more than delighted to, as one of them has already stated she “has stories to tell” at this point I neither care, nor am concerned about whatever “stories” any of them tell.

The event in Maynooth on 3rd of May has to be rescheduled, till either the 7th June 2014 or the 14th of June 2014, but it IS going ahead and I will confirm those details by the end of this week.

I will endeavour to respond to the many emails I have received on mensrightsireland@gmail.com over today and tomorrow and to the comments posted on this blog and my other one, and I offer my sincere apologies for simply just disappearing and failing to respond to both emails and most of the comments posted in the last two weeks. I only came back “online” a few days ago – for brief periods.

With my best wishes to all those engaged in the Men’s Human Rights Movement and to the many people who have posted such interesting and thought provoking comments on not just this blog, but my other one, and to all men and boys and fathers everywhere who are struggling with living in this world as it is today.


Anne Marie Dempsey/Anja Eriud

Launch of Men’s Rights Ireland


Time to get serious about Men’s Rights in Ireland, I’ve been blogging for about 8 months, maybe a bit longer – though it seems like a lifetime, I started out as a complete novice, am still learning – slowly – but one thing I already knew before I started this journey into the world of online Men’s Rights activism, was that the core message of the Men’s Human Rights Movement was simple – yet profoundly urgent and necessary.

That Men’s rights are Human Rights, and that the concept of Human Rights as the absolute foundation of any civilised society has become tarnished, had become sullied and stained by decades of attacks and assaults upon it by feminism, and by feminists, who wouldn’t know a Human right if it jumped up and bit them on their arses.

Feminism has divided and conquered, has created a gulf of almost unimaginable distance between men and women, the two complimentary halves of humanity, so much so that I do sometimes despair that this gaping wound can be, or ever will be healed.

Into this gulf they have poured their poison, their vitriol, their spite and malice, and used these toxic miasmic outpourings to dismantle and destroy every last vestige of honour, of integrity and of basic humanity from both civil and political society.

In pursuit of what?

In pursuit of achieving but one gaol – to strip men and boys of their humanity, to reduce men and boys to a lesser sub -class of human beings, if even they acknowledge that men and boys are human beings.

They have done this by one mechanism – redefining humanity – elevating women and girls to some celestial class of human beings and men and boys to that lesser class of sub-human beings – and sub-human beings don’t need human rights – do they?


Men and boys are human beings – and Men’s Rights ARE Human Rights. It is time to take the battle to the feminists, time to take this battle to the streets, into the universities, right into the corridors of power.

That’s where I’m going – want to come?


About Men’s Rights Ireland (‘MRI’)

 In Ireland, the human rights of men and boys are being systematically and relentlessly assaulted by the actions and inactions of the state, as they are across much of the developed world. I have decided to launch a new campaigning group, ‘Men’s Rights Ireland’, with the objective of ending those assaults.

I’ve never been a feminist, feminism is an ideology that, like all toxic ideologies rests on a foundation of “othering” an entire class of persons, the core of all feminism(s) is radical feminism, and it is radical feminism that informs all feminisms, and exerts its malign influence on law and public policy. I’ve seen the disadvantaging of Irish men and boys becoming steadily worse since the late 1970’s, as successive governments have danced to the radical feminists’ tunes.

Radical feminism is a female supremacy ideology driven by misandry (the hatred of men). Radical feminists are parasites intent on destroying their host, civilised Irish society. MRI will raise public awareness of the damage being wrought by radical and gender feminists in Ireland, and from the outset we’ll advocate on four platforms:


Fathers’ Rights – the current system tolerates the perpetuation of Parental Alienation of fathers from their children, and ensures fathers are denied reasonable access to their children after relationship breakdowns, when malicious mothers deny them access, which is nothing less than emotional abuse of fathers and their children.

Domestic Violence Against Men – which happen almost on a par with domestic violence against women, but has been ignored, and where a narrative has been manufactured to paint all men as inherently violent – which is simply not true – as has been empirically proven over and over again

Criminal Justice – an ongoing campaign to have the core pillar of Human Justice dismantled – Innocent until Proven Guilty, for one category of crime – Rape and Sexual Assault. The propagandising of a non-existent “rape culture” in Ireland, and across much of the developed world.

Health and Social Funding – for male health and social issues – specifically male health issues (e.g. prostate cancer) which are on a par with specifically female health issues (e.g. breast cancer) the disparity in funding, attention and research is outrageous. Funding and housing support for homeless men and boys, funding for mental health services for men and boys.


On the 3rd May 2014 Men’s Rights Ireland is hosting a Public Event in The Iontas Theatre, National University of Ireland, Maynooth, Co. Kildare with two guest speakers from the UK – tickets for this event go on sale on Wednesday 2nd April 2014, and are only available through the website:


 or by contacting:


Details about this event are on a separate page entitled “Hear The Truth in Maynooth

And me – who am I?

My name is Anne Marie Dempsey, I am a 52 year old mature student of Law and Politics at The National University of Ireland Maynooth, Co. Kildare – and I loathe feminism.


I’ll be waiting at www.http://mensrightsireland.wordpress.com

I’m still putting the finishing touches to the place, talk about your extra curvy learning curve – tech wise – but you’re more than welcome to drop by and say hello.


On a personal note, there is one person to whom I owe an enormous debt of gratitude, for answering my innumerable questions, for being the behind the scenes support of  this venture, and for his unflappable and calm serene demeanour, in the face of my many “queries” that generally start with “what the fuck………”

Mike Buchanan of Justice for Men and Boys (and the women who love them) – the man is a saint 🙂

I will of course be supplying the Guinness in Maynooth on the 3rd May 2014.


Who Owns Ya?


It’s a particularly Irish expression – and it relates to children. Usually said if a child has been caught “up to no good” and sure what child hasn’t been?

But, when an adult did, or in some case still does, catch one of these little rascals  in the act – the first thing they want to know is “who owns ya” generally followed by “ya lttle skelp”” because parents are ultimately responsible for what their children get up too.

Now, the concept of “ownership” in relation to children in this instance isn’t the same as ownership of inanimate property, or wasn’t, but as I said above, a concept whereby parents were responsible for what their children got up too, when out and about, or out of sight of their parents beady eyes.

All that has changed – because of feminism – in the 21st century women OWN their children – exclusively, with men in some instances being reduced to being merely unwitting sperm donors.  Though of course, the cost of maintaining this “property” rests solely on the shoulders of these unfortunate, and as I said, possibly deceived men – on the shoulders exclusively of Fathers. And The State.

Because now, the word Father, rather being something that evokes honourable men, working to support, parent and care for their children out of love for them – has, through the machinations of feminists become a dirty word, a word spoken with contempt and derision, a word that evokes only one thought – “how much can I make him pay?

Through the malign influence of feminism, women whether feminists or not, have manufactured the most ridiculous myths and fables, created and spewed the most exaggerated and hyperbolic rhetoric about “the miracle of childbirth” and the “Myth of Motherhood

Have made an normal and natural biological event that almost every single mammal on this planet does, into some kind of iconic action invested with magical properties, has made being the female parent of a human child, some kind of mystical and cosmically significant activity, all the while reducing the male parent of a human child to an insignificant donor of some “genetic material”

All so that women could do the exact opposite of what they usually claim are their motives for their sometimes vicious campaigns of Parental Alienation against the Father (s) of these children.

“I’m doing it for the children” or “it’s for their own good” or “he doesn’t deserve MY children”

See, here, here, here and here  and go here.

Really? Is that so? Actually to all you women who use any of the above, or any variation of the above, BULLSHIT – you’re doing what you are doing because you are a 24 carat, Grade A Bitch, a malicious, nasty, disgusting and miserable example of a human being.

You are being a total and utter C**T!

Anyone who reads this and knows some female like this, or who is doing this, you are enabling, endorsing and giving your approval to a total and utter C**T – and no – I don’t care if she’s your sister, your friend, your aunt or any female that you include in your family or social circle.

She is a C**T and you are collaborating with this C**T

Further, if you know the father of these children and in your opinion he’s a bit of arsehole – SO WHAT? What does YOUR opinion matter? NOT ONE LITTLE BIT – because I’ll tell whose opinion matters here.

HIS CHILDREN’S – not yours, not hers, not your families, not your friends – nobodies but those children’s.

And no, not what SHE says the children “really feel” – because she has manipulated, intimidated, pressured and emotionally blackmailed those children into rejecting their Father’s – because she is a C**T.

End of.

You know what this is about? Not about mothers rights or to some extent Fathers Rights – but a child’s RIGHT – as an autonomous little human being to the care, companionship and love of BOTH his/her PARENTS – not as a concession granted by one reluctant parent to another, NOT access, NOT contact, NOT as a battle to be fought in a Family Court infested and infected with the slimy and fraudulent evil whisperings and lies of feminists.

Any woman who deprives the child or children she created WITH the man, or in some cases men, of that child or children’s RIGHT to be parented by BOTH his/her parents EQUALLY


May you rot in hell you evil, nasty, vicious bitches, may you not know a single day of real happiness or contentment, and may those children you abused – yes abused – learn of what you did – and hate your guts – leave you to fester in malignant old age, alone and muttering to yourself:

“I did it for the children”

For those who KNOW this is going on – who KNOW one of these C**T’s and again I repeat, so what if she is your sister, your friend – whatever – YOU are collaborating with a C**T  who is abusing those children.

Endorsing, giving approval to, giving the nod to, turning a blind to, and pretending you don’t see – children being abused!



To all those women smugly making the lives of the father (s) a living hell on earth – no matter how young that child or children is or are, they will remember, they are recording and storing in their memories, everything you did, every lie you told, every vicious act you perpetrated, they might not be able to process it yet, they might not even understand what is going on – but they WILL – one day – and they WILL judge you – and there is no harsher judge of a parent than a child who learns the truth about that parent.

Even if they don’t, even if you manage to totally brainwash them, you are and always will be nothing but a total and utter C**T.

Till the day you die.


© Anja Eriud 2014

Get Off the Internet: Real Life is………..OUT THERE >>>>>>>>


And yes, I mean this obscure little blog as well!

Over the course of my life I have learnt several things – and the most important thing of all is that PEOPLE matter – flesh and blood people – not bells and whistles – not how snazzy or high tech your toys are, or as Mama would say how high-falutin your plamais (bullshit) is  – and in her less kind moments –how you are nothing but one of  the “fur coat and no knickers brigade”.

Basically you can wrap a turd up in pretty paper and ribbons – organise a marching band and a travelling midget circus to accompany its presentation – but – it is still a turd – wrapped in pretty paper and ribbons.

I recently became aware of a series of videos, which consists of various females holding up hand written signs proclaiming why they “don’t need feminism”

Really? Is that so? So fucking what? The Men’s Human Rights Movement is NOT – I repeat not supposed to be about what YOU need – or about YOU – and by you, I mean over privileged, pampered young women who wouldn’t know injustice, pain, fear or real suffering if it jumped up and bit them on the backside.

There is also another “trend” that seems to be developing – within the MHRM itself – the message is getting lost in the medium – the message is now secondary to the snazziness of the medium through which it is being disseminated.

Yep – I hold my hand up – I am a tech moron – totally – I could care less about twitter shit – facebook frolics or any other mindless activity – and to my mind – I could be wrong – most of it IS mindless that happens – on the internet. Not all – just most of it.

But it has become a God – the technology has replaced religion – as the Deity De Jour of human interactions – or rather has become a contest between competing parties for the title of tech king or queen of the MHRM.

All this bollox – all this “I’m putting in or I’ve got the latest super duper hi tech this and that” on my blog or site or facebook page or whatever– crap – in what way does this progress or advance the cause of Men’s Human Rights? – in what way does this change one single law – repeal one single policy – help one single man or boy – sitting alone in a room – with everything stripped from him – including his dignity and worth as a human being?

In what way does this improve the message?


I don’t give a flying rats arse about video’s, about twitter, about facebook or about having the latest high tech gizmo – I care that no-one cares about that man or boy – that no-one gives a shit if he lives or dies – I CARE – and I would trample all your hi tech crap into the ground if I thought for one minute that doing so would save that man or boys life.

And if you really give a shit – then all you who are having your hi tech pissing contests would do the same.

Jesus Christos – GET OFF YOUR BLOODY ARSES – get off the bloody internet – go talk to real people – put REAL people in your poxy video’s – put real boys and men’s voices on the fucking internet – shut the fuck up – with your smart alec diatribes, your clever little vignettes – yeah yeah yeah – we already know you’re as smart as a whip, and a clever clogs – how many bloody videos and articles does it take for you to say or show that? 10? 20? A 100?

How many snotty smug little twats prancing about in their bedrooms holding up signs and breathlessly exclaiming why they “don’t need feminism” does it take before you realise this?

So fucking what? Who gives a shit?

Sell your bloody webcam and donate the money to a homeless shelter for men and boys – use the money you spent on the new clothes and other crap you bought so you could “look your best” for your 15 minutes of fame on the bloody internet to ANY fathers rights organisation.

You want a round of applause for being a twat? For simpering and smirking your way through 15 mins of internet fame? Bite me!

That homeless man you stepped over on your way to buy your crap surely appreciates the “effort” you made to make HIS life absolutely no better by your actions.

The father who reeled out of the courthouse you passed by on your back with your shiny new webcam is overcome with gratitude that you “don’t need feminism

This is NOT about you – or what you feel – or what you think, or what you want the world to know about YOU.

THIS IS ABOUT WHAT ARE you going to do about THAT homeless man – THAT devastated father – TODAY?

Like I said – a tech moron – and you know what – I make absolutely no apology for that – so what if I don’t “make videos” that are such, like, high tech super cool, with super fabulous production values? So what if I don’t have all the latest bells and whistles and gizmos that apparently one simply cannot communicate with other human beings without?

I’m communicating now – all anyone needs to do to read what I’m communicating is to type anjaeriud or mensrightsarehumanrights or as recently someone did “mgtow selfish” to get here.

Is what I’m saying any less clear, any less unequivocal because I know fuck all about embedding videos or “media” into this post?

Is it?

Does any man or boy suffering right now as I type this on my shitty laptop, with my crappy broadband connection give one single flying fuck whether or not I “put a video up” on “the internet” with me holding a handwritten sign saying “I don’t need feminism because………..blah, blah blah”

No! He bloody doesn’t – and why the hell should he?

The message of thee of Men’s Human Rights Movement is simple:


If you can read that – that’s all you need to know – NOW – what are you going to do in real life that makes that message the one that informs laws, public policy, changes  hearts and minds – makes the life of one single man or boy a little less shit – TODAY?

You could start by going to your local church hall or community centre and start a men’s  support group – imagine that – a place for men to go to meet other human beings,  a cup of tea and a chat and be acknowledged AS a human being!

Doesn’t even have to be about men’s rights – talk about football, vegtable growing, just TALK – interact – as human beings. I don’t know, call it ManChat – call it whatever you like – just do it!

And by the way ladies, if one of you decides to do this – make the tea, make the sandwiches then piss off – leave them alone – resist the urge to “manage” these guys – fight the inclination to “organise” these guys – just piss off and leave them alone – ok?

Who are you going to vote for? Which MENS charities are you going to support, donate to?  Are you going say stop the next time you hear some whiny rancid trollop gloating about how she “took him to the cleaners” in court?

Who are you going to Vote for?

Well here’s a suggestion as who to vote for if you live in the UK – Mike Buchanan – Party leader of J4MB – Justice for Men and Boys (and the women who love them) and as many of their candidates as they run in the 2015 General Election.


Read this: http://j4mb.wordpress.com/our-public-consultation-exercise-2/

Support this: http://j4mb.wordpress.com/national-conference-on-fathers-rights/

“National conference on father’s rights – London, November 2014

We’re planning to be the first British political party to host a national conference on fathers’ rights. It’s expected that it will be held in November, in central London, and we’ll have more to say in due course. Of course it’s not only fathers whose human rights are assaulted by legislation and the family courts system. So too are the rights of children, grandparents, and a small number of mothers. The conference will cover their rights too.”


Don’t just sneak into the ballot box with your head down hoping see’s you – walk in with your head held high – and for the love of God – tell your friends, your family, your co-workers, the lady you chatted to at the bus stop to do the same.


Are you going to step up and say – THIS IS WRONG – TODAY – in real life – to whoever will listen

© Anja Eriud 2014


Call to Arms: Honey Badgers and Non Feminist Females….Step UP!


Not literally “to arms” but to touch base, connect and collaborate with one another, in order to oppose our common “enemy” in fact the common enemy of all decent, right-minded human beings who are sick to death of the lies, the bullying, the vicious hate campaigns of feminists and their enablers, against anyone who dares to challenge them, criticise them or my favourite – take the piss out of them – and you all know that there is a veritable goldmine of material to work with there.

First – let me just explain what inspired this. Two things.

First there is a blog called femalefedupwithfeminism.wordpress.com   that I follow – and this blogger just posted an article entitled “Some thoughts on feminists shutting down those who dare to disagree”

Take your time and have a read – take in the full impact of the content of this blog post – in particular how feminists like that wretch Caroline Criado – Perez like to roll – or as I prefer to characterise what they do – slime their way across the internet and social media.

I understand and fully appreciate why this blogger is scared – and she’s right to be – these are nasty people – nasty, corrupt, vicious and completely without conscience people.

Direct message to Caroline Criado – Perez.

First – you don’t scare me – you are nothing but a bully.  A nasty, underhanded, and dishonourable bully of the first order. Bite me.

In my opinion.

See those highlighted words – in my opinion – I stand by every single one – I claim the Right – to hold and express MY opinions of YOU. I will not retract, remove or modify one single letter, one word.

Feminists like Perez, like those of her ilk – Stephanie Guthrie, Jessica Valenti and the rancid covens of them over at jezebel and feministing, all rely on bullying tactics, on hysterics, on lies and on manufactured “threats” to coerce others to do their bidding.

In effect, they throw tantrums, they hurl themselves to the floor like spoilt obnoxious brats and scream and scream till they are sick – they kick and they work themselves up into paroxysms of rage.

Infantile, hysterical, ridiculous rage – well, do you know what sensible, mature grownups do when confronted with a tantrum throwing brat?

They ignore them, they walk away, they give them and their hysterical petulant demands absolutely no attention – AT ALL.

Then there is this.

Bullies are never satisfied, are they? For an example that perfectly illustrates the sheer nastiness of feminists, just take a look at this wretch – calling herself Miss Anne Dree, who started contributing to a twitter “thing” entitled #killmostmen – yep a true humanitarian. Apparently in honour of International Wretches Day – nope – NOT a typo.

Mike Buchanan of J4MB has helpfully supplied information on who this nasty bitch is associated with:

“I recommend you click on #killmostmen to see who Miss Anne Dree is associating with and supporting. This is what feminists look like. I imagine they’ll be interested in our public challenges of prominent feminists (and their male collaborators). They include Julie Bindel, Kat Banyard, Caroline Criado-Perez, Vince Cable MP…”

(emphasis added)

As long as people are prepared to give in to them, to be intimidated by them, to just give them what they demand, they will keep demanding more and more.

The originator of this, goes by the name Bet Lunch – and in the insane world that feminists inhabit gives us her “reason” why this is a “good thing”

“Bet Lunch@ArchedEyebrowBRNov 7

I’ve just coined a hashtag that I think will please everyone: #killmostmen “

“Please everyone”??? – Like sociopaths, psychopaths, nutjobs and feminists you mean, NOT decent human beings.

You know who this vile creature is talking about?  Your sons, your fathers, your brothers, your nephews, your uncles – in fact every single male person you know  or are related to and LOVE, care about – and would be devastated if this piece of barely human effluent had her way.

As long as WOMEN – think this is “funny” or “acceptable” or “not worth bothering about” – it will continue – they will preen, they will smugly and viciously claim to speak on behalf of ALL women – on behalf of YOU!

They are nasty, vicious, obnoxious and venal creatures, with no conscience’s, no integrity, no moral or ethical code – look at them – read the garbage they write – look at the underhanded and vile campaigns they launch against people who criticise them, who disagree with them. The lies, the falsehoods, the smears and innuendoes – the manufactured drama’s they create.

Are these not the most ridiculous creatures you have ever seen?

Do you think or believe for one minute that these vile creatures give one single solitary shit or rats arse about YOU – you as an individual, you as an individual woman?  As a human being? Don’t make me laugh – all this bullshit, all this vicious and hysterical tantrum throwing is for one purpose, and one purpose only – to line their own pockets – to keep them in the “positions of power” they believe they have.

The power to throw the wool over your eyes – to make you believe lies – to feed you a diet of bullshit, cant, drivel, and the spewing of their own dysfunctional and twisted perspectives.

But perhaps the greatest crime of all is to convince you that you are nothing but a perpetual victim, that you cannot do anything on your own, that, you are pathetic, weak-willed, spineless and useless!

Why else would they be constantly beating on the drum for more “special” allowances to be made for women, for “supports”, for standards in almost every area of endeavour to be lowered so that YOU can “do the same job as a man”

What these feminists are telling YOU is this.

You cannot do anything on your own – you’re weak, pathetic and useless. The only way to get anything you want is to whine for it, to throw a tantrum and coerce people into giving it to you – to shut you up – to lie and cheat and behave in the most underhanded way imaginable in order to obtain something under false pretences.

THAT is the message of feminism to WOMEN.

Now, I know that most women have a strong desire for men to “like them” to “appreciate them” most women want to “have a man in their lives” you know it and I know it – so let’s not kid ourselves.

Ladies, WAKE UP – open your eyes, open your ears and LISTEN – listen and read what men are saying about you – listen and hear the contempt, the derision and scorn that more and more men are beginning to hold YOU in.  Yes – YOU, and you, and you, and you.

Oh sure, and forgive the crudeness – they’ll fuck you – in a heartbeat – because basically you’ve been putting it out there for nigh on 50 years.

But, they DON’T like you, they DON’T think you are a goddess, they DON’T think that you are a vision of loveliness and perfection – you’re just a quick screw.

And YOU all heard these messages from feminists – and fell for this bullshit – hook, line and sinker – don’t believe me? Then go look at what MHRA’s write and say about you – what they think of you – what MEN think of you.

Feminists scream and rant about “misogyny” they have hysterics about men who hate women – has it never occurred to you – YOU don’t get to choose what other people think of you – YOU don’t get to demand that MEN love you, or adore you, or “respect” you, simply because you happen to born female.

You have to earn these things, YOU have to be worthy of these things, YOU have to be “Worth it” and to be blunt.

You’re NOT!

But, you could be.

So, I issue an invitation to all women who genuinely want to be Human Beings – first and foremost – who believe that ALL Human Beings have worth, that what you have between your legs is secondary to what you have in your heart, in your conscience, in your minds – that being a Human Being transcends ALL other considerations – to say hello, to get in touch – to connect.

I know you’re out there – I know that you are as fed up with feminism as both the blogger at femalefedupwithfeminism.wordpress.com and myself, and so many more women are.

Lass – I salute you – well done.

I want to hear your voices – I will do a follow up post with your messages (with your permission of course – so if you do get in touch – make that clear otherwise I’ll just assume I have your permission)

Just so it’s clear – any feminists who “get in touch” and spew out their usual bile and drivel – I WILL put your “messages” up there as well – after all – fair is fair 🙂

And yep – I know you pop in here from time to time – duh!

So, you already know I’m not as nice as the lassie over at femalefedupwithfeminism.wordpress.com, probably to do with my zero tolerance of bullshit, drivel, and feminist whining – I loathe feminism – and have never met a feminist I would piss on if she was on fire. Consider that your one and only warning, if you decide to crawl out from under your rocks.



Say hello at: anjaeriud@hotmail.com   🙂


© Anja Eriud 2014


NB – A Honeybadger is a non or anti feminist female. Google it, or pop over to J4MB  – Justice for Men and Boys (and the women who love them) where you will find a video that will literally make you pee your knickers laughing. Use this link:


Without knowing it – you might just BE a Honeybadger.

The SWOTMA’S – Reaching the Summit of…………Stupid Deserves an Award!


Yesterday I inaugurated an award called the SWOTMAStupid Woman Of The Month Award – for individual stupidity that goes above and beyond the requirements for being just plain ole dumb.

The blushing and obviously overcome first recipient was Emily, who posted a comment that could be a primer for “how to write the stupidest comment on a post bar none”

Now there is another category – for a team effort – for a group of women who have gotten their heads together and come up with an idea that truly epitomises the almost, exclusive to women, skill of being stupid in charge of………………………well……..almost anything.

What is it that a group of women could have been in charge of that would elicit the mother lode of stupid that lies within every feminist?

Why, it’s International Women’s Day tomorrow – and the Inaugural SWOTMA, for a team effort goes to:

***********Drum Roll Please*******

The National Women’s Council of Ireland


Because in order to mark this auspicious occasion the NWCI has planned for tomorrow a “pop-up soapbox” to be placed in Dublin city so that any women who wants to have a whine – oops – I meant a bit of a moan – darn – wants to share their thoughts on being women can just hop right up there and have at it!

“We would like if you could join us and speak from the especially designed Soapbox talking about what women want, from your perspective, for three to five minutes. Others will be online talking on #NWCISoapBox. Please join with us by standing in solidarity with women from all over the country who are prepared to stand up for what truly matters to women. By midnight on International Women’s Day, thousands of Irish women from all walks of life will have had their voice heard.

The Soapbox, which will be situated in a Marque and fully managed, will be outside/opposite the GPO – an iconic Irish landmark in Ireland’s history, from 12.00 to 4.00 on Saturday, March the 8th – International Women’s Day.”

Ironically, the NWCI is celebrating 40 years of existence, 40 years folks of, as they say on their site:

“Our mission is to lead and to be a catalyst for change in the achievement of equality between women and men. We articulate the views and experiences of our members and make sure their voices are heard wherever decisions are made which affect the lives of women.

Our vision is of an Ireland, and of a world, where there is full equality between women and men.”

Newsflash ladies – you got your wish – quite some time ago – there is enough “Equality” legislation and special provisions written into almost every single law and policy in this country to fell several hundred acres of Amazonian rainforest.

There is absolutely NOTHING stopping any woman from doing or achieving anything she wants – if she has the talent or ability or drive to do so.

Oh wait – I forgot – actually getting off your backside and achieving something on your own merits, by dint of your own hard work is just not the “feminist way” is it?

Nosireebob – women need “special” help, and “supports” and “quotas” so that even if they are completely useless at something, they STILL get the job – in case their feelings are hurt – or they feel “marginalised” or excluded” or God forbid – discriminated against – because there are so few services for women – such a lack of platforms and forums where women can “get their voices heard!

Hmmmmm – actually nope – that would be MEN – Irish men, Irish boys – within just this one organisation – specifically created, funded and supported FOR women – there are a total of 160 organisations sheltering under its cosy umbrella – with a tranche of other organisations contained within those.

“We represent our membership which includes 160 member groups as well as a wide range of individual members from a diversity of backgrounds, sectors and locations.”

Why don’t you click on the link and scroll down the list of the number of organisations, groups and services specifically set up and funded for WOMEN.

Imagine that? All these services for women, all these groups dedicated to  the needs of women.

All sheltering under the umbrella of just one organisation – just one of many many similar organisations dedicated to WOMEN.

If I posted a link to a list of all the groups and organisations specifically dedicated to the needs of women in Ireland you would be looking at pages and pages and pages of names. Would take you hours to just go through all the names, all the organisations, all the groups. Literally HOURS!

If I posted a similar list dedicated to the needs of Irish Men – you would be looking at ONE PAGE!

So, this Inaugural SWOTMA goes to the National Women’s Council of Ireland for displaying Stupidity above and beyond the requirements to be deemed truly moronic, for giving a platform, and in this case a soapbox for the professionally stupid, to do what they do every day, have a whine and a moan about how hard it is to “be a woman” in Ireland

Along with your Certificate, which you can access below, and of course print out, and I know will give pride of place in the new building I see you are hoping to acquire, you also get a prize – A pig in a poke – just as soon as I figure out what a “poke” is, and catch the little piggy to put into said poke – slippery little feckers aren’t they – by the way it’s a girl pig – her name is Germaine 🙂


InauguralSWOTMA – NWCI


© Anja Eriud 2014

Schools Out – Forever!


Whenever I need a bit of a lift – I turn to music – and nope – not some wishy washy ballady type music written for women to assure themselves that the greatest love of all is to love yourself! No doubt while chanting “I loooooooooooove me, what’s your hobby?”

Please! Get a grip.

Nope, what gets my blood moving again, what gets me up and dancing around the kitchen in my wellies (yes wellies) is Thin Lizzy – The Boys are Back in Town, and Alice Coopers – Schools Out.

Today and yesterday was no different – except in one way – it hit me, this morning – ladies, Schools Out – not just for the summer – but forever because The Boys ARE back in town.

Don’t believe me – hmmmm – you should maybe take a trip to Detroit this summer on June 27th and 28th, when the first International Men’s Rights Conference, of this century, is due to take place hosted by A Voice for Men.

The theme of this conference is simple, it is clear, and it is unequivocal, and it is the message of the Men’s Human Rights Movement (MHRM)


The line up of speakers will address issues that impact on the lives, the worth, the value of men and boys – and they will speak the truth.

I can’t recall which one of you said those asinine words “the personal is political” but, I will give you all fair warning – YOU made it personal – now the growing international Men’s Human Rights Movement, WILL make it political.

For any feminists intending to attend, to protest, to launch a counter offensive in an effort to silence these voices, these truths – a concept I know that feminists have not even a passing acquaintance with – it’s too late.

Seriously ladies – you are too late – for almost 10 years I believe, since the inestimable angryharry first sat in front of his computer and tapped out the truth on his keyboard your days were numbered.

From: Equality Between Men And Women Is Not Achievable. Click here for article.

“The search for ‘equality’ between ‘men’ and ‘women’ is like a dog chasing its own tail. It will always be out of reach. And the very act of chasing it is costing us a great deal and causing tremendous damage to us.

The solution that we need to seek is not ‘equality’ – because it will never be found.”

You have been informed, the MHRM has attempted to educate you, to school you – and yet in your arrogance, in your vanity and egotism you played hooky, you skipped class and went on your merry ways. Well ladies – time to pay the piper, time for you to stop, to sit, stand or slouch still – lesson time is over – no more extensions – no more due over’s.

SCHOOLS OUT – forever.

Perhaps there was a time when you could have been considered capable of learning, capable of becoming more than you were, of growing into adults endowed with reason, with honour, with integrity, with even a small semblance of humanity. Alas with each poisonous article, each putrid blog and site, each repetition of the same tedious, asinine and frankly boring whines and complaints, peevish and petulant gripes and moans – it is abundantly clear that you are not capable of any of those things.

So, while all you fabulous 30 something’s are penning your screeds, cackling and sniggering with your various covens – and it must be said – while your ovaries are shrivelling to walnuts, your eggs have just gone off, and your vaginas are drying up – which apparently speak to and for you – the world is moving, and has moved on.

Oh yes, we know it is not going to be easy, we know that you will try every nasty, underhanded, sly and vicious trick in the book, and at your disposal to stop this, to prevent this conversation from taking place.

We know this, we know that you will point your manicured fingers at men and young men, at boys, and make false accusations, tell vicious lies.  We know this.

Just as we know that you will continue to write your poisonous articles, keep on posting your vicious rants on your blogs and sites.


We don’t care, do it, bring it on – say what you like – peddle your lies, spin your fairytales, rant and rage, shriek and howl at the moon for all I care.

We know this, because we already know what you are willing to do to protect your ideology, to cling gracelessly and rigidly to your unsupportable “theories” we know that you will lie, will libel and slander, will viciously and dishonestly attack anyone who dares to challenge you. Like cornered rats do.

Do it – bring it on.

Then go look at the numbers – go look at the numbers of women backing away from feminism, go look at the numbers of men and women who are looking back at YOU – in contempt, in scorn, in derision.

Can you see them? Can you hear them? Of course you can, of course you know this is happening – why else would you all be in a fever, in an ever accelerating panic to enact legislation, to put in place gynocentric policies, to attempt to shut down and shut up these voices?

Do it, bring it on – laws can be repealed, policies can be abandoned, all it takes is the will and the commitment of men and women willing to say – ENOUGH. All it takes is for people who know the truth to stand up and say – this is wrong.

“All the forces in the world are not so powerful as an idea whose time has come.”

Victor Hugo

You are facing a growing army of these men and women – you are facing a determined, committed and immovable body of men and women who not only have stood up to be counted, but ARE standing up, more and more with each day that passes.

Abandon ship ladies, the boat is sinking, and the rats are leaving – and by the way – there is a price to be paid if you want room on the lifeboat?

That price is and should be easy enough to pay – all it will be is that, you become a human being.

The lifeboat? The Men’s Human Rights Movement.


© Anja Eriud 2014




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