Form a Posse Men…….There’s Wimmin Needing rescuing…..Giddy up!

 

 Paul Elam of A Voice for Men published an article sounding a warning bell at something emerging within the WordPress “Community” that warning bell was in relation to this article.

 Written by someone called Sarah Gooding it calls for “Cultivating a Culture of Respect in the WordPress Community

I’ve read Gooding’s article and first impressions – sanctimonious, self-righteous, passive aggressive busybody, she has decided that the “standards” SHE see’s in the “WordPress Community”, do not meet with her approval.  At all. The other thing to note about Gooding’s opinion is that because she is female, a woman, everyone needs to sit up straight and TAKE NOTICE.

A WOMAN is “uncomfortable” a WOMAN is “not happy” other people are behaving in ways “at parties” that a WOMAN does NOT approve of.

The only way to describe Gooding’s whiney little screed is to say – she is talking out of her gynocentric arsehole.

Gooding is a perfect example of what women have been doing, expect to continue to be allowed to do, and assume they have the right to do.

Dictate to all and sundry, how they must speak, how they must act, and how they must interact – because WOMEN are the historical etiquette police of the human race, women are the arbiters of what is “good and proper” and more importantly what isn’t – we could be sitting in a Victorian parlour listening to some pursed lipped, snooty spinster hold forth on the deplorable manners of the lower classes. 

How uncouth, how unrefined, how beastly they are.

Our putative spinster busybody is so overcome at the uncivilised behaviour of these lower classes, that when she encounters them she almost swoons with the assault on her delicate sensibilities.

THAT’S what Gooding is – a snooty, self righteous sanctimonious Victorian spinster looking down her pointy nose at the lower classes.

Well fuck you Mizz Gooding.

One of the themes of Gooding’s article is a demand that people treat one another with respect – mainly her of course – well I have a question for Sarah Gooding.

What exactly have you done to EARN MY RESPECT?

Yes, you read that right, EARN. MY. RESPECT. Because right now, with your whiney female snivelling, all I hear and read is, I have a vagina, I have ovaries, I am FEMALE – ergo – you OWE me respect – basically because I exist. Yet again I have one thing to say to that.

Fuck you Mizz Gooding.

Paul Elam in his article lays out the modus operandi of whiney “you hurt my feelings” victims everywhere.

.”“They are even approaching this with the same M.O.. First, set up the victim narrative; create a crisis for women that literally does not exist. This is done by a small number of very vocal ideological women who claim to be victims, and who need “special” enforcement of even more “special” rules, in order to make them feel safe and welcome (because we all know that women are not welcome anywhere, especially by men, right?). Then, of course, the idea is to punish anyone who disagrees with them with demonization and ostracizing

This is exactly what Gooding does, she starts off by setting up what Typhonblue (Alison Tieman) calls the Threat Narrative – i.e. create a false “threat”

“The WordPress project is going through some growing pains. After 10 years there are millions of people around the world using this software and interacting with one another on a daily basis. The vast majority of these interactions are positive and respectful and for a long time we haven’t needed any kind of official code of conduct, but this is changing.

“Women in WordPress” is currently a hot button topic and has been for years, with many discussions cantered around how to make women feel more welcome.”

Suggesting that something needs to be done “to make women feel more welcome” is femspeak for saying, people are being mean and nasty and just horrible to women, but because women are soooooooooooooo nice, and don’t want to just come straight out and say this, they use euphemisms like making women FEEL more welcome.

Oh she pops in a few more little hints at this “threat” to women, but more importantly she introduces the underlying agenda.

“A few incidents of harassment have popped up in our community and other open source communities, prompting a movement to create a Code of Conduct

Now what Gooding is doing here is appealing to chivalry, appealing to an age old code created and sustained by women throughout the ages that states, women must not be inconvenienced, upset, discommoded, annoyed, irritated or plain ole pissed off in any way shape or form. It is the responsibility of men to shield women, to protect women, and to never put a woman in a position where she has to act like a bloody grown up, take responsibility for HERSELF, and not expect the entire world to tippy toe around her sensitive and fragile feelings.  Hence the “Code of Conduct” it is Chivalry 101.

In essence – MEN die and women swoon.

The next little quote contains a nugget worth noting – when women “suggest” things, especially when it benefits ONLY women, and has the effect of imposing sanctions on men.  

“Stephanie Leary posted on the Women of WordPress site concerning harassment at WordCamps after speaking with a couple of people who experienced minor harassments at events but hadn’t reported it. She suggests that WordPress create its own harassment policy and that WordCamp organizers designate a safety officer:”

Such a sweet innocuous little statement, isn’t it? So self effacing, so concerned?  Naw, this is bullshit, female bullshit, it is a turd wrapped  up in pretty paper, tied up in ribbons and coyly offered as a “suggestion” when in actual fact THIS is the agenda, THIS is gynocentrism in all its putrid, underhanded, devious glory.

Translation from Femspeak to plain english.

Right now I’m being as sweet as pie, and playing the poor widdle damsel in distress, but, if you don’t comply, and do what I want, then I will cause such a shitstorm of female disapproval, tears and tantrums, and make such nasty, underhanded, mostly untrue, and definitely misrepresented statements, that your name (s) will be mudd.

 Gooding goes on, with some anecdotal “evidence” with her in the starring role as the sweet, delicate and naive damsel who doesn’t want to make a fuss or “cause a scene” it’s all bullshit, and she shirts very close to basically libelling some anonymous and innocent man, but plays that other female card, insinuation, she insinuates, she suggests, she leaves little clues and hints, and waits for everyone else to fill in the blanks.  For the requisite :

oh my God, you poor poor thing, that’s just awful, you’re sooooooooo brave”

With the piece de résistance being

“Men are such pigs – something NEEDS to be done about this” tad dah! Score!”

This whole article is an exercise in propaganda and femspeak, with one agenda and one agenda only – to “feminize” WordPress – to make it in the image of something that women can be “comfortable” with.  That only means one thing – Free Speech? Forget it – what if your opinion or your style of communication hurts some widdle sensitive and fragile woman? What if you say mean things about something a woman has said? What if some woman has posted God-awful tripe and you say that? Forsooth! What if she then………………………….cries?!

This last quote is the cherry on top of this toxic little pie – talk about threat narrative, talk about putting a silent unspoken “or else” at the end of something

“Community can make or break a project. A set of community expectations is the first step in laying a foundation for respectful behavior. I wish we didn’t need them, but we do.”

Cue big sad sigh, complete with trembling lip.

What Gooding is really saying here is – I will harness the power of the vagina, the golden uterus, and if I don’t get what I want – I scweam and scweam and scweam till I’m sick, till you give in and……………..WordPress exists to serve the needs, wants, whims and petty agendas of pathetic, snivelling, spineless, manipulative toxic little wretches like Sarah Gooding and her gal pals.

 

Forsooth! Save Me Oh Gallant Knight…..

 

Forsooth, save me oh gallant knight from the perils and pitfalls of beastly marauders and ruffians, for I am but a weak and fragile maiden of delicate sensibilities and shall swoon in despair if my most trifling fancy is not granted forthwith.

Yawn!

I’ve been wondering why all our modern day “ladies” and gallant “knights” don’t just revert back to the rather flowery language of the golden age of chivalry and be done with it.  After all, according to the best “minds” of modern 21st century “experts” on male female relationships, all women are ladies of delicate sensibilities, and all men gallant knights who live to serve fair ladies, or at least should be.

Oh wait – I forgot – women are empowered, independent and self actualised autonomous beings, except when they’re not – and all men are bastards – except men who play along with the contradictory and confused “myth of womanhood” that holds these two completely opposite paradigms as true. Though, if you ever get a chance to eavesdrop on the “girl talk” of these “ladies” you will discover that yep – you’re a bastard too – just a useful one, because you, in your gallantry, don’t expect women to be ADULTS.

I actually get more flak from men when I state “I’m not a feminist” and “nope, never been oppressed” and “thanks but I can do that myself” at first it was odd, then it started to get annoying, now – well now apparently I’m “no lady” – well thank fuck for that!

Do I think that those gallant men who have attempted to “treat me like a lady” with all that this entails [sigh] are bastards and just trying to “oppress” me? Nope – they are merely following a script, acting out roles that have been hammered into their heads, literally following their programming. Then when their programming is challenged, when the recipient of this gallantry refuses to follow the script – in their confusion and disgruntlement and because the other party to this ridiculous script is ad libbing they get – a tad touchy.

Which in many ways is understandable, after all, they’re been learning this script all their lives, rehearsals are ongoing, rewrites are par for the course, their part stays the same, the lines never change, their role never changes, even as the female leads in this real life play edit their own script, don bizarre “costumes” depending on whether or not they are playing “ladies” or sluts.

Nope, the female characters bio stays the same – “weak and fragile maiden with delicate sensibilities” even as she whacks you over the head with the nearest kitchen utensil, screams abuse and foul language at you, kicks you out of your house and prevents you from seeing your beloved children – she is still a delicate fragile flower of perfect womanhood who needs to “be taken care of”

Perhaps you are a young man and want to go to college and study engineering, or physics, or some other highly complex subject for which you have an aptitude for? You apply, you get turned down, this is odd, you’ve gotten top grades in your subject since – forever – it’s all you ever wanted to do.

Want to know why you, the best candidate got turned down? Because some barely competent female decided it would “be cool” to be an engineer, did she work as hard as you? Don’t be daft. The college wooed her, with grants, with mega tons of path smoothing, with lowered standards, and laid out a red carpet so she wouldn’t have to scuff her Manolo Blahniks as she sashayed into college and took your place. And according to the script, this is where you shrug your shoulders, smile ruefully and applaud this delicate and fragile creature for after all – what a lady wants – a lady gets.

Here’s the punchline – those men who see themselves as gallant Sir Galahad’s, as “gentlemen” protecting the laydees from even the slightest inconvenience or upset are in fact the MOST discriminatory, the most anti “equality” the most patronising and condescending – your behaviour is saying, loud and clear – you are an incompetent nitwit, with barely the sense you were born with, you are a child, an immature useless twat who couldn’t find her ass with a map.

The ones who bleat about “how women are discriminated against” and therefore need special protection? Who would these terrible discriminatory men be?

That would be YOU – discriminating against women – because you DON’T see autonomous human beings, you DON’T see that by treating someone like a child you encourage and enable childishness, immaturity and self absorption. You give selfish self absorbed women permission to BE selfish and self-absorbed, you do them a huge disservice by enabling ridiculous pouty and immature behaviour and “protecting” them from adult accountability. Now THAT’S discrimination. To treat an adult like a child, and refuse to hold them accountable for their behaviour.

You want to know what I see, when one of these gallant knights hove’s into view?

A FOOL, a pompous condescending robot, parroting a script, playing a part, because he’s too afraid to let go of his safe secure rigid role as “man who protects women and is therefore one of the good guys” actually you’re not one of the good guys, you’re a patsy, a tool, a sap.

You define yourself by your usefulness to women, by allowing yourself to be used, by being, unbeknownst to you, the butt of the joke – and what is the joke that women tell behind your back?

“he’s such a fool that all I have to do is flutter my eyelashes, flatter his ego by purring what a big strong man he is – and he is putty in my hands – I can make him do whatever I like”

Yep, these are the delicate fragile sensitive little creatures that you congratulate yourself on being in thrall too – these are the manipulative scheming and avaricious harpies that play you like a violin.

You really want to actually do women a favour? To show that you “respect” women?

Then first and foremost, start treating them like adults, stop excusing and justifying petty and spiteful behaviour, start expecting grown women to take responsibility for THEIR actions. You know what you get if you let a child act out, or don’t correct bad behaviour – a spoilt brat that throws tantrums.

Have some respect for yourself – stop allowing yourself to be hoodwinked, stop congratulating yourself on being a “good guy” who only exists to serve women – any woman – no one really likes an ass kisser, a sycophant, a patsy. If you ARE one of those “good guys” who believes that women are equal to men then start acting like you believe it.  Hold women to the same standards as you hold men.

And no, I’m not talking about superficial difference in strength, or capacity to do certain jobs, but more fundamental standards of honesty, integrity, loyalty, truth and compassion. Those standards.

But perhaps more importantly, realise this – human beings come in all sorts of sizes and shapes, all levels of competence and ability, varying degrees of arseholery and decency – being male or female is the least important aspect of this package we call a human being. To elevate one sex over another, and pedestalise one entire sex is to deny the inherent humanity in the other. Consequent to this of course is that, if you’re the one that gets to worship at this pedestal, by its very nature – you will NEVER be good enough, not for the twat you just hoisted up on that pedestal.

Does it even need to be said? If you put someone up on a pedestal looking DOWN on you, why would it come as a surprise to know that she IS actually looking DOWN on you – you gave her permission to do so.