Get Off the Internet: Real Life is………..OUT THERE >>>>>>>>


And yes, I mean this obscure little blog as well!

Over the course of my life I have learnt several things – and the most important thing of all is that PEOPLE matter – flesh and blood people – not bells and whistles – not how snazzy or high tech your toys are, or as Mama would say how high-falutin your plamais (bullshit) is  – and in her less kind moments –how you are nothing but one of  the “fur coat and no knickers brigade”.

Basically you can wrap a turd up in pretty paper and ribbons – organise a marching band and a travelling midget circus to accompany its presentation – but – it is still a turd – wrapped in pretty paper and ribbons.

I recently became aware of a series of videos, which consists of various females holding up hand written signs proclaiming why they “don’t need feminism”

Really? Is that so? So fucking what? The Men’s Human Rights Movement is NOT – I repeat not supposed to be about what YOU need – or about YOU – and by you, I mean over privileged, pampered young women who wouldn’t know injustice, pain, fear or real suffering if it jumped up and bit them on the backside.

There is also another “trend” that seems to be developing – within the MHRM itself – the message is getting lost in the medium – the message is now secondary to the snazziness of the medium through which it is being disseminated.

Yep – I hold my hand up – I am a tech moron – totally – I could care less about twitter shit – facebook frolics or any other mindless activity – and to my mind – I could be wrong – most of it IS mindless that happens – on the internet. Not all – just most of it.

But it has become a God – the technology has replaced religion – as the Deity De Jour of human interactions – or rather has become a contest between competing parties for the title of tech king or queen of the MHRM.

All this bollox – all this “I’m putting in or I’ve got the latest super duper hi tech this and that” on my blog or site or facebook page or whatever– crap – in what way does this progress or advance the cause of Men’s Human Rights? – in what way does this change one single law – repeal one single policy – help one single man or boy – sitting alone in a room – with everything stripped from him – including his dignity and worth as a human being?

In what way does this improve the message?


I don’t give a flying rats arse about video’s, about twitter, about facebook or about having the latest high tech gizmo – I care that no-one cares about that man or boy – that no-one gives a shit if he lives or dies – I CARE – and I would trample all your hi tech crap into the ground if I thought for one minute that doing so would save that man or boys life.

And if you really give a shit – then all you who are having your hi tech pissing contests would do the same.

Jesus Christos – GET OFF YOUR BLOODY ARSES – get off the bloody internet – go talk to real people – put REAL people in your poxy video’s – put real boys and men’s voices on the fucking internet – shut the fuck up – with your smart alec diatribes, your clever little vignettes – yeah yeah yeah – we already know you’re as smart as a whip, and a clever clogs – how many bloody videos and articles does it take for you to say or show that? 10? 20? A 100?

How many snotty smug little twats prancing about in their bedrooms holding up signs and breathlessly exclaiming why they “don’t need feminism” does it take before you realise this?

So fucking what? Who gives a shit?

Sell your bloody webcam and donate the money to a homeless shelter for men and boys – use the money you spent on the new clothes and other crap you bought so you could “look your best” for your 15 minutes of fame on the bloody internet to ANY fathers rights organisation.

You want a round of applause for being a twat? For simpering and smirking your way through 15 mins of internet fame? Bite me!

That homeless man you stepped over on your way to buy your crap surely appreciates the “effort” you made to make HIS life absolutely no better by your actions.

The father who reeled out of the courthouse you passed by on your back with your shiny new webcam is overcome with gratitude that you “don’t need feminism

This is NOT about you – or what you feel – or what you think, or what you want the world to know about YOU.

THIS IS ABOUT WHAT ARE you going to do about THAT homeless man – THAT devastated father – TODAY?

Like I said – a tech moron – and you know what – I make absolutely no apology for that – so what if I don’t “make videos” that are such, like, high tech super cool, with super fabulous production values? So what if I don’t have all the latest bells and whistles and gizmos that apparently one simply cannot communicate with other human beings without?

I’m communicating now – all anyone needs to do to read what I’m communicating is to type anjaeriud or mensrightsarehumanrights or as recently someone did “mgtow selfish” to get here.

Is what I’m saying any less clear, any less unequivocal because I know fuck all about embedding videos or “media” into this post?

Is it?

Does any man or boy suffering right now as I type this on my shitty laptop, with my crappy broadband connection give one single flying fuck whether or not I “put a video up” on “the internet” with me holding a handwritten sign saying “I don’t need feminism because………..blah, blah blah”

No! He bloody doesn’t – and why the hell should he?

The message of thee of Men’s Human Rights Movement is simple:


If you can read that – that’s all you need to know – NOW – what are you going to do in real life that makes that message the one that informs laws, public policy, changes  hearts and minds – makes the life of one single man or boy a little less shit – TODAY?

You could start by going to your local church hall or community centre and start a men’s  support group – imagine that – a place for men to go to meet other human beings,  a cup of tea and a chat and be acknowledged AS a human being!

Doesn’t even have to be about men’s rights – talk about football, vegtable growing, just TALK – interact – as human beings. I don’t know, call it ManChat – call it whatever you like – just do it!

And by the way ladies, if one of you decides to do this – make the tea, make the sandwiches then piss off – leave them alone – resist the urge to “manage” these guys – fight the inclination to “organise” these guys – just piss off and leave them alone – ok?

Who are you going to vote for? Which MENS charities are you going to support, donate to?  Are you going say stop the next time you hear some whiny rancid trollop gloating about how she “took him to the cleaners” in court?

Who are you going to Vote for?

Well here’s a suggestion as who to vote for if you live in the UK – Mike Buchanan – Party leader of J4MB – Justice for Men and Boys (and the women who love them) and as many of their candidates as they run in the 2015 General Election.

Read this:

Support this:

“National conference on father’s rights – London, November 2014

We’re planning to be the first British political party to host a national conference on fathers’ rights. It’s expected that it will be held in November, in central London, and we’ll have more to say in due course. Of course it’s not only fathers whose human rights are assaulted by legislation and the family courts system. So too are the rights of children, grandparents, and a small number of mothers. The conference will cover their rights too.”


Don’t just sneak into the ballot box with your head down hoping see’s you – walk in with your head held high – and for the love of God – tell your friends, your family, your co-workers, the lady you chatted to at the bus stop to do the same.


Are you going to step up and say – THIS IS WRONG – TODAY – in real life – to whoever will listen

© Anja Eriud 2014


Old W[h]ines Fancy New Bottles – Part II


 Christina Hoff Sommers wrote an article for AVfM, where she casts her eye over a new documentary film called The Mask You Live In – even the title makes me shudder.

Anyway – in her first two paragraph, Hoff Sommers indulges herself in a bit of hand-wringing and worrying, about how this film might, just might be misrepresenting boys. Then goes on to do just exactly that herself.

“ It argues that American boys are captive to a rigid and harmful social code of masculinity. From the earliest age, they are told to “Be a man!” “Don’t cry!” “Stop with the emotion!” and “Man up!” This “guy code” suppresses their humanity, excites their drive for dominance and renders many of them dangerous. The trailer features adolescent men describing their isolation, despair and thoughts of suicide, artfully interspersed with terrifying images of school shooters and mass murderers.”

Fair enough, though the fact that the filmmaker is described BY Hoff Sommers as  “filmmaker and feminist activist Jennifer Siebel Newsom’s” might be a great big bloody honking clue as to how Newsome might view boys and all male human beings!

In light of the fact that it was Hoff Sommers own book – “The War Against Boys”, in which SHE described this “war” as a “war” initiated, waged and perpetuated by BLOODY FEMINISTS “Against Boys.” The rest of her “article” is………..bizarre.

But, alas, one of the things that feminists are famous for is, backpeddling, indulging in a little linguistic sleight of hand, depending on which way the wind blows, and how uncomfortable that fence they’ve been sitting on is getting. Sommers apparently is no exception as this article illustrates.

“Christina Hoff Sommers, who played a starring role in the anti-feminist backlash of the 1990s, is back again with a new edition of her book The War Against Boys. Originally subtitled How Misguided Feminism Is Harming Our Young Men, it’s now relabeled How Misguided Policies Are Harming Our Young Men;”

Well now! Isn’t that intriguing? All of a sudden feminism is quietly swept under the carpet, and “policies” are now the big bad wolf creeping up on the hen house. Such a nice “let’s not point the finger at anybody or anything in particular” just some unattributed vague neutral “policies

Eh, yeah, right!

The article was published on Feb 14th 2013  – the author of this piece, Jim Naureckas, is very obviously not a fan of Sommers, and in this instance who can blame him.

I’m wondering, to myself, is this a chance to seize an opportunity to come in from cold? It can be a mite chilly being outside the sisterhood, especially when one yearns for “nice feminism” to come back into fashion. Naureckas helpfully supplies a link to another article, this time penned by Hoff Sommers herself.

Perhaps we’ll just let Hoff Sommers explain the little word substitution herself – I took a screen shot of the relevant paragraph, because for some reason I couldn’t copy and paste it, and am no good at figuring out what the problem is.

In her own words then. Click on the link above to go read the article yourself.

“For a revised version of the book, due out this summer, I’ve changed the subtitle – to “How Misguided Policies Are Harming Our Young Men” from “How Misguided Feminism Is Harming Our Young Men” – and moved away from criticizing feminism; instead I emphasized boy-averse trends like the decline of recess, zero-tolerence disciplinary policies, the tendency to criminilize minor juvenile misconduct and the turn away from single-sex schooling.  As our schools have become more feelings-centred, risk-averse, collaboration-orientated and sedentary, they have moved further and further from boys’ characteristic sensibilities.  Concerns about boys arose during a time of tech bubble prosperity; now, more that a decade later, there are major policy reasons – besides the stale “culture wars” of the 1990’s – to focus on boys schooling.”

Ah, well then, let’s all stopcriticising feminism” because obviously since from the first time Hoff Sommers published her ground-breaking book, it appears that  now, feminists have become so much nicer, so much more concerned about boys, it would be better if we all just learned to get along, and play nicely together. You read it from the horse’s mouth – feminism is OFF the hook.

B.U.L.L.S.H.I.T – B.U.L.L.S.H.I.T – B.U.L.L.S.H.I.T – B.U.L.L.S.H.I.T – B.U.L.L.S.H.I.T  – did I mention that this is B.U.L.L.S.H.I.T?

Sommers does make a few friendly and nicesuggestions” as to how Newsome can improve her film, but decides to regale us first with some nice descriptive words about what men are, and what women are.

“A recent study on sex differences by researchers from the University of Turin, in Italy, and the University of Manchester, in England, confirms what most of us see with our eyes: with some exceptions, women tend to be more sensitive, esthetic, sentimental, intuitive and tender-minded, while men tend to be more utilitarian, objective, unsentimental and tough-minded. We do not yet fully understand the biological underpinnings of these universal tendencies, but that is no reason to deny they exist.”

 Where is the link to this “study please? I’d like to read it myself, and make my own mind up about what it found, if that’s all right with you Dr. Sommers?  Because what I’m seeing here is a pithy little analysis that functions to confirm and perpetuate STEROTYPES – what is “stereotypical female behaviour, and stereotypical male behaviour or if you prefer. Myths.

 What are little girls made of? Sugar and spice and all things nice……… all know the rest.

 I especially liked the words “sensitive” and “tender-minded” applied to women, I must have misinterpreted all those RED PILL stories from all those MEN on AVfM forum, where they described the horrors they endured at the hands of “sensitive” and “tender-minded” women – but the words she uses for men are classic gynocentrism wrapped up in nice feminist bullshit, my absolute favourite being “utilitarian” ah yes – men have always been “utilitarian” FOR the benefit of women.

 But it was Hoff Sommers suggestion No, 4 that made me literally drop my jaw in amazement – in one paragraph she chides Newsome for misrepresenting boy’s mental health, claims that most boys are basically as happy as Larry AND points out that “Among 10- to 24-year-olds, 81% of suicide victims are male.

 But the cherry on top of her “suggestion“ to Newsome is that in spite of all these happy go lucky boys that “Male suicide is a much neglected scourge, and Newsom’s efforts to raise awareness are admirable” BUT also that  “Each of these deaths is a tragedy. But it helps no one to pretend that suicide is typical male behavior.”

“4. Make clear that most boys are psychologically sound and resilient

 The Mask You Live In gives the impression that the average adolescent boy is severely depressed. In fact, clinical depression is rare among boys. (National Institute of Mental Health data show that the prevalence of depression among among 13- to 17-year-old boys is 4.3%; among girls of the same age group, it is 12.4%.)

Newsom’s film reports that every day in the U.S. three or more boys take their own lives. Suicide is, indeed, primarily a male disease. Among 10- to 24-year-olds, 81% of suicide victims are male. In 2010, a total of 3,951 young men died by their own hands. Male suicide is a much neglected scourge, and Newsom’s efforts to raise awareness are admirable. Still, in a nation of nearly 33 million boys, that means that the percentage of boys who commit suicide is close to 0.01%. Each of these deaths is a tragedy. But it helps no one to pretend that suicide is typical male behavior.”

 So, let me see if I have this right? Boys are NOT suffering from clinical depression, because MORE girls, almost three times as more get diagnosed with REAL clinical depression – yet MORE boys than girls actually take their own lives – but not because they are as depressed as girls?

What am I missing here? Oh yeah – when girls are depressed its REAL depression, but when boys are depressed it’s………? Because obviously with nearly “33 million boys” What difference does it make if 0.01% of them take their own lives, plenty more to spare. It’s the percentages that matter, NOT the actual real human beings – because after all, it’s just a FEW BOYS! I’ll be honest, that almost made me puke in disgust.

 Hoff Sommers next suggestion made me spray my coffee out all over my computer screen – she lauds the efforts in Australia to improve men’s “mental fitness” because of a report in the Medical Journal of Australia in 2006.

“Some of the most promising, innovative ideas are coming out of Australia. In 2006, a report in the Medical Journal of Australia argued for a paradigm shift in the nation’s mental-health system. Rather than blaming “masculinity” or trying to “re-educate” men away from their reluctance to seek help, the author asks, “Why not provide health services that better meet the needs of men?”

 I’m just going to leave the link to Janet Bloomfield’s (aka Judgybitch) brilliant article on the issue of Male Health Studies in Australia here and this link here, and say just one thing to Dr. Christina Hoff Sommers.

 What fucking planet, what parallel universe have you been living in since………being the poster girl for cool and trendy nice feminists, way back, when sitting on the fence was much more comfortable than it is now?

 You cite some report from 2006, from almost eight years ago, without actually providing a link to said report, yet seem oblivious to events of recent days regarding the FIRST attempt to offer a Male Studies course – that IS actually about Male Health in Australia?

 Here’s what I think – that Christina Hoff Sommers sees an opportunity to jump on the bandwagon of feminism 4.0 via two avenues, first by re-issuing her book – with a new suitably sanitised tag line under the title, that takes the heat OFF feminism, and two, by offering a half baked apologia/endorsement/half fat approval, for this execrable toxic little film that is a vehicle for a repackaged, rebranded, renewed, boy friendly feminism.

 The message is the same – men and boys bad – girls and women good – it’s still FEMINISM – it just got itself a makeover, has quietly nudged the screechy ranty bad feminists back into the shadows, or up into the attic and is now doing the fluffy feminist two step.


© Anja Eriud 2014



NB. I wrote this article yesterday, but held off posting it last night, because as I read the comments on AVfM on this article – with almost no exceptions the comments were all rather gushing in praise of Hoff Sommers.  So I slept on it – thinking – am I just imaging this? That this article is a thinly disguised apologia FOR feminism? That this article is a sloppy, poorly researched, lazy, knocked it off in an hour piece of pro feminist bullshit?  That Hoff Sommers is skating by on past glories?

Now to be fair to Hoff Sommers, her book The War against Boys was groundbreaking and rightly deserves kudos, but that was then, this is now. What I did notice about the comments as well, was that with the exception of a few minor “issues” pointed out in the actual BODY of her article – no- one directly critiqued it. No-one took this article point by point and examined it very closely. There was a lot of tippy toeing around, a few vague references to a few vague, as I said “issues” but overall it was a love fest – Christina Hoff Sommers was so cool, was so brilliant and the MHRM was sooooooooo lucky to have her!


Added this Morning: What is written above is my honest to God opinion – I stand by every word of it – should anyone wish to “take me to task” for taking swipes at the untouchable Christina Hoff Sommers – go ahead – I won’t stand in your way – won’t close comments, censor you or bar you from commenting, obviously if you decide you post poisonous ranty illiterate diatribes I might use my discretion – it is MY blog after all – otherwise nope.

 What I will point out is that A Voice for Men has my full 100% support, now and always, without AVfM and Paul Elam’s vision and persistence the MHRM would probably still be in the doldrums, still languishing in dark corners of the internet, and feminism would have won – Men’s Human Rights would probably be fast becoming a distant memory.



A Just Cause.


Throughout history there have people who have spoken up, and spoken out about injustice, about mans capacity for inhumanity against their fellow men, and they often have put themselves in peril, run the risk of themselves being vilified, scorned and sometimes worse. But, in spite of this they have persevered, and eventually triumphed, or at least that which they sought to change has come to pass.

Another thing to bear in mind is that inevitably these have been, as we all are, imperfect and flawed human beings, but what marks the three I am going to talk about is that the Just Cause they all championed, in their individual ways was out of a desire to right a wrong, to benefit others, to put their talents, their energy, and sometimes their lives on the line FOR others.

These men, and yes they are three remarkable men, sought nothing for themselves, nothing but to aid, to defend, to protect and to stand up and speak FOR those who had no voice, had no means, had no power to speak for themselves.

William Wilberforce, Dr. Martin Luther King Jnr, and late Nelson Mandela (R.I.P) were such men, flawed human beings, but heroic none the less.

All sought to end something evil, something wrong, something unjust and inhumane, and ALL knew that doing so, was to be “unpopular” was to place themselves in harm’s way, to subject themselves to approbation and scorn and danger.

It is not courage to do something that one has no fear of doing, or to say something that will barely raise an eyebrow, it is courage to do something that carries risk, that places oneself in harm’s way FOR another human being, and I don’t mean someone one loves and cares about, but strangers, for those who do not even ask for aid. Because, for many, they are so inured, so numbed by their own unjust circumstances that they accept it, they fail to recognise their entrapment, they have lost the ability to articulate a vague sense of unease or wrongness that weighs like an invisible burden across their shoulders.

Now, ask yourselves, how does “speaking up” on behalf of so called “victims” that requires and demands acts of inhumanity , acts of injustice, acts of derision and scorn at the suffering of others constitute a just cause?

Of what do I speak? Well feminism of course.

There are those who laud the efforts of the pioneers, the proto feminists – suffragettes – as heroines, as noble selfless creatures engaged in a just cause.

I disagree, and I am also loath to count these proto feminists amongst the three genuinely noble humanists I mentioned above, for one reason.  They did NOT seek to alleviate the suffering of their fellow human beings, whether male or female, they did NOT seek to right a wrong, to campaign against an injustice, against acts of inhumanity.

They campaigned for the right to access POWER – political power – they agitated for self aggrandisement; they committed acts of illegality and to be blunt terrorism to advance the already privileged position of a small group of privileged WOMEN.

These are the toxic roots, the venal and self-serving motives of feminism, NOT noble, NOT engaged in acts of selflessness and altruism. A campaign for power, nothing more, nothing less.

Which brings us to the Men’s Human Rights Movement [MHRM].  Are we seeking power? No. Is this a campaign, a cause, peopled by elite privileged men seeking to increase their “privilege”? No, it is not.

It is peopled by men AND women of conscience, who see all around them the Human Rights of Men and Boys being trampled into the dirt, who see men and boys being abused, being derided, being accused, jailed and punished unjustly at the whim and on the perjury of vindictive, spiteful women.  It has one purpose, one message.

Men’s Rights are Human Rights – and THAT is a Just Cause.